similarities: in both poems they study how conflict effects civilians physiologically, as the mother is grieving while the daughter can't know her father due to culture
in both poems they are processing memories they have, in kamikaze she is trying to rationalize why her father came back, while in poppies she is trying to work out why he left
differences: while the father is alive the son is not, shows the power of the culture in japan as she no-longer has a father in her eyes due to the culture