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• Luigi pirandello: 'I present myself to you in a form suitable to the relationship I wish to have with you.'
• Factors that influence who likes whom

  • Proximity
  • Mere exposure
  • Similarity
  • Physical Attractiveness
• Types of interpersonal relationships

  • Friendship
  • Attraction
  • Romantic love
  • Commitment
• ": 'Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.'
• Attraction


  Something that draws two or more people together, anything that a person finds captivating from the opposite or same sex
• Romantic love


  An intense state of longing for union with another person encompassing a distinct amalgamation of behaviors, cognitions and emotions
• Commitment


  When one promises a loved one that he/she will not look at another person the same way he does for him/her; it means keeping that promise despite temptations along the way
• Ways of expressing one's love

  • Be thankful
  • Be accepting of differences between herself/himself and others
  • Learn to communicate to other people involved in the relationship
  • Through communication, the person can check out assumptions about others rather than decide for the latter as to how they think and feel
  • The person should be true to herself/himself and give up living up to other's expectations
• Leadership


  Leaders typically act as monitors and control for discipline, direction, and methods used to reach goals by the community
• Nine Leadership Essentials


  • A leader has followers. No followers, no leader.
  • Effective leaders listen well.
  • Great leaders combine both empathy and logic.
  • Great leaders provide clear and compelling communication.
  • Great leaders have visions.
  • They genuinely take care of their people.
  • Great leaders provide actual modeling and provide structure and organization.
  • Great leaders are both reflective and action-oriented.
  • Great leaders are team players and help develop other great leaders.
• Servant-leadership


  The leadership model originated by Robert Greenleaf, where the great leader is first experienced as a servant to others, and this is central to the leader's greatness
• Robert Greenleaf: '"True leadership emerges from those whose primary motivation is a deep desire to help others."'
• 10 Traits of Servant Leadership

  • Listens well
  • Empathetic
  • Heals
  • Self-Aware
  • Persuasive
  • Conceptualizes
  • Has foresight
  • Stewardship
  • Commitment to the growth of the people
  • Builds community
• Sun Tzu: '"If you know your enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles."'
• GRIT


  The capacity to dig deep and do whatever it takes - even sacrifice, struggle and suffer – to achieve your most worthy goals in the best ways
• GRIT


  • Defined by Dr. Paul G. Stoltz in his book 'GRIT The New Science of what it takes to Persevere, Flourish, and Succeed'