MOD1: Teen-age Relationships

• Relationship

  A two-traffic which means that all parties should learn how to give and take
• Affection

  One of human beings' greatest emotions
• Personal Relationship

  A form of relationship closely linked to a person and which can only be important to that person
• Kind of Personal Relationship

  • Privacy and Intimacy
  • Impersonal Relationship
  • Attraction
• Privacy and Intimacy

  Two attributes describing personal relationships and level of commitment to another person/s
• Attraction is the first step toward building an intimate relationship with someone else.
• Attraction

  A force that unites people and can grow into an attachment which eventually leads to commitment
• KINDS OF ATTRACTIONS

  1. Physical Attraction is Based on Instinct
  2. Physical Attraction Does Not Necessarily Lead to a Good Relationship
  3. Platonic Attraction is Important
  4. The Unattainable is Attractive
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT

  Most people would claim that they are attracted to someone after a few seconds of their first encounter
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT

  April Masini, who also gives ABC Entertainment News relation advice, wrote books like Date Out of Your League, suggests that females are naturally attracted to men who exude affection and passion and seem to live a fascinating life
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT

  Heterosexuals tend to be attracted to men with traditionally masculine features including muscle body, square jaw, straight nose, and narrow eyes, physically or emotionally. Heterosexuals tend to be attracted to men with traditionally masculine features including muscle body, square jaw, straight nose, and narrow eyes, physically or emotionally. These physical properties often include higher testosterone levels, common among "alpha males." Alpha males display a particular personality trait, including directness, determination, and power.
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT NECESSARILY LEAD TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

  The first physical attraction is a very poor indicator, according to Dr. Margaret Paul, an expert in relationship who has a Ph.D. in psychology, about how well a relationship performs that can lead to a feeling about abandonment
• PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT

  You also consider how trustworthy he or she seems to be and how loving he or she is, in addition to how physically attractive your future partner is. Is he calling, for instance, when he says he's going? Does she answer the phone if you call her? Is he going to find little things and compliments? When you talk about movies or sports you like, does she even listen to you? The building block of deep emotional links are also common interests
• PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT

  Having a common family history may also be helpful. Aaron Ben-Ze'ev, a professor of philosophy and author of The Subtlety of Emotion, suggests that your relationship may benefit from physical proximity, living close to your interest in love. Believe it or not, it seems that simply living in the same city or neighborhood makes people experience more platonic attractions with each other.
• THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE

  We just want something that cannot be achieved. According to Helen Fisher, Ph.D., Professor at the Rutgers Department of Anthropology and Chief Scientific Advisor to the Chemistry online dating service, it will still be attractive to someone we consider "out-of-the-league" because they are ideal
• THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE

  As a way to force ourselves to strengthen both our body appearance and our social status, we could be producing these frustrating crushes. At the same time, loving yourself and being patient is the most important thing, because it is impossible to genuinely love someone else without loving yourself first
• The Republic Act (RA) 11313, otherwise known as the Safe Space Act, intentionally prohibits indecent and unlawful acts of expression
• The Republic Act (RA) 11313

  This RA broadens the scope of the RA 7877 or the Anti-Harassment Act of 1995. This law recognizes that sexual harassment occurs in the workplace, education, and training environments, and penalizes persons who have authority, influence, and moral status in those institutions who commit prohibited acts of sexual harassment
• Mutual respect

  Will he or she get to know how smart and why you are? Will your partner listen to you when you say you are not happy doing something and then instantly back off? Respect in a partnership means that each partner trusts and respects the weaknesses of each other and will never question them.
• Trust.

  You talk to a classmate, and your partner wanders about. Is he going to lose his cool, or is he going to keep walking, because he knows you are never going to cheat on him? Often it's normal to get a little jealous; jealousy is a common feeling. But how a person reacts when he feels jealous is what matters. Though you trust each other, there is no guarantee that you will have a healthy relationship.
• Honesty.

  This one goes hand-in - hand with confidence, because when one of you is not honest, it is difficult to trust another. Have you ever caught your partner in a total lie? Like when she told you that she / he was occupied with homework, but it turned out that she / he was talking to friends? You're going to have a lot of difficulty believing the next time she / he says she / he has to work and the trust will be on dangerous foundations.
• Support

  It is not only in difficult times that you should be supported by your partner. Usually, when the whole world is falling apart, we thought that this is the only time we need support from others. Even in your best, you still need support and when time gets tough, your significant other should still be there. For instance, your partner should be there when you find out that your parents are breaking apart and he/she should also rejoice with you when you get a great score.
• Fairness/Equality

  You need to have a give and a take in your relationship. Do you take turns deciding what kind of food to eat? Are you going out with your friends as a partner as much as you stay out with your friends? If it is not a fair balance, you will know. When a relationship transforms into a power struggle, with one party trying to get his or her way all the time, changes get really fast.
• Separate identities

  In a stable relationship, everybody has to make compromises. But that does not mean you should have the feeling that you are losing yourself. You both had your own lives when you started out (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that should not change. You should not pretend to like something that you do not like, or give up seeing your mates, or give up something that you love. And you should also feel free to build new abilities or interests, make new friends, and move forward.
• Good Communication

  Are you going to speak to each other and share the feelings that matter to you? Don't keep your emotions locked up because you are afraid your partner does not even need to hear about it. And if you need some time to think about something before you are ready to talk about it, you will be provided some space by the right person to do that.
• Cheating

  If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of the question. Many people will say infidelity is a deal-breaker. However, others will decide to stay with their partners after an affair, and, under the right circumstances, it is possible to heal the relationship. If you do decide to maintain the relationship, your partner says they will never cheat again, and they do, it’s likely that they will continue to break your trust.
• Putting you down

  No one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. Whether blatant or subtle, if your partner criticizes your looks, your hair, your laugh, your intelligence, or anything, they’re not worth your time.
• Not supporting your dreams

  In a relationship, you should be each other’s cheerleaders. When you feel discouraged, they should tell you all the things you’re doing right. If you feel like running out of options, they should ask what he can do to help you reach your goals.
• Controlling

  You should have a life outside of your relationship, away from your partner. It is not their place to tell you who you can see, when you can see them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling behavior can be a warning sign of physical abuse and should be taken seriously.
• Lack of communication

  You will never be able to grow together if you don’t discuss your wants and needs. You both need to feel comfortable openly expressing your feelings, good and bad, otherwise you might begin to resent each other.
• Unnecessary sacrifices

  Compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re giving up everything, while your significant other is sacrificing nothing, something’s not right. Have you heard someone say they got rid of their pet because their fiancé didn’t like cats? Or quit their job, left their family, and moved to other places for someone who wouldn’t do the same for them? These should serve as your red flags or warning signs that there is something wrong in how your significant other treats you.
• Unreliability

  When your cellphone is not working, you need advice, or you’ve just had a bad day and need a hug, do they come to your aid? If they’re not there for you when you need them the most, think twice: why are you with them?
• Forgetting the memorable day

  There’s a stereotype that men always forget anniversaries and birthdays. Whether that’s true or not, it’s not okay. It’s normal for something to slip our minds, but your man (or woman) should remember those little things that are important to you
• Self-destruction

  Sometimes we fall for people who are in rough situations. Though it can be difficult, it’s important to be there for your loved ones during these times and encourage them to seek help if necessary. However, if they are engaging in destructive behavior that is negatively affecting you, and they refuse to seek help, you might want to consider leaving. There is only so much you can do, and it is not your fault that they are not willing to help themselves.
• Not caring about friends and family

  When you want to build a life with someone, you have to accept every part of them, including the people they care about. Your partner not making an effort to get to know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your relationship.
• Proximity and similarity contribute to relationship-building, and reciprocity and self-disclosure are critical for sustaining relationships
• Researchers have 14 documented several characteristics which are attractive to humans. People differ in what they consider attractive, and cultural influences on attractiveness. Nevertheless, research indicates that some commonly attractive characteristics in women include wide eyes, high cheekbones, a thin jaw line, a slim build (Buss 1989), and a lower waist-to-hip ratio (Singh 1993)
• Love is sometimes characterized by intimacy which is the sharing of details and emotions and intimate thoughts
• Sternberg (1986) states that a healthy relationship will have all three components of love – intimacy, passion, and commitment
• Intimacy, Passion, & Commitment

  Are described as consummate love