PERDEV2.1

• "No Man is an Island"
• "No Man is an Island"


  Humans being are social creatures and need to be part of a community to survive and thrive
• Relationship


  • The concept of relationship is very broad, complex and varies from person to person
  • Relationships are important to a person's happiness
  • The absence of close relationships can produce negative effects such as feeling worthless, powerless, and alienated
  • Every relationship has specific objectives or purposes that a person wishes to pursue, either because of need, want, and/or desire
• Mother-child relationship


  The very first meaningful relationship every person encounter, already established even before birth because of the connection
• Pre-historic humans were interacting already through different forms of behavior such as smiling, greeting each other, showing love, affection, and loyalty, and/or hunting food together
• Personal relationship


  The association and close connection between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow and form mutual experiences. Personal relationships generally refer to family, friends, and significant others
• Changes in personal relationships during adolescence

  • Changes in the physical and cognitive aspects go along with the changes in relationships especially with family and friends
  • A new understanding of one's self occurs, including independence, identity, and self-esteem
  • A person's personal relationships then play a significant role in the adolescent's pursuit of self-understanding
• Family relationship


  • The basic unit in the society
  • Family is generally defined as people living together in a household who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption
  • Roles are defined, with parents and older relatives' role being to guide, discipline, and support younger members
• Family bond


  • Plays a vital role in a person's well-being
  • Helps form other kinds of relationships such as friendships and romantic relationships bound by love and closeness
  • Relationships in general may involve arguments, disagreements, moments of anger, and hurt
  • There may be a usual increase in arguments and conflicts with parents when adolescents assert their independence as their way of finding self-identity
  • These are short-lived for families when there is love, care, and understanding
• Friendship


  • Friends are the people who are not related to us by blood but we choose to interact with them
  • They are the people with whom we share our trust, respect, and care
  • Friendship is a reciprocal relationship, where both people must see each other as a friend for the relationship to exist
  • Good friendships are mutually respectful, supportive and share common interests and ideas
  • It should be built on honesty, support, and loyalty
• Degrees of friendship


  • You may feel closer to some friends than others
  • Some friendships, especially if they have only known each other for a short time, may not share personal issues or concerns
  • You may feel more comfortable and able to confide in friends whom you have known well
• Best friends or close friends

  Friends who are very close and have known each other well
• Some friendships can be close where they choose to greet each other by hugging or kissing on the cheek, other friendships may have no physical contact or may simply shake hands. However, romantic contact or being intimate physically is not appropriate in a friendship
• Romantic relationship

  • A relationship where you feel strongly attracted to the other person, encompassing their physical attributes and personality
  • The closest form of relationship where the two people involved will often describe themselves as being attracted to each other and/or "in love"
  • They feel a strong connection and bond with each other that they do not feel with anyone else, even with close friends
  • The bond is also exclusive and monogamous
• People in a romantic relationship often see each other and when apart will find ways to contact each other by phone and the likes. An example of a romantic relationship for adolescents is between a boyfriend and girlfriend
• Biological model of love

  There are three brain systems of love: lust, attraction, and attachment. Each also involves different neurochemicals in the brain. Depending on a person, a love relationship can start in any of these three
• Lust


  An urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual activity, associated primarily with estrogens and androgens
• Attraction


  The love-struck phase, involving focusing attention on a particular person. Factors influencing attraction include physical attractiveness, proximity, similarity, and reciprocity
• Physical attractiveness


  • One of the primary determinants of romantic attraction, especially in the early stages of dating
• Proximity


  People tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer to them, more likely to develop feelings of mutual familiarity
• Similarity


  People choose partners whom they find similarities such as social class, religious beliefs, and education. The more they share attitudes and opinions, the more they will want to do the same activities, creating a strong bond
• Reciprocity


  People like others who like them back. The more a person is liked by someone, the more he/she behaves in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking
• Attachment


  A deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another. Usually, long-lasting commitments are exchanged when people are attached even across time and space
• Triangular theory of love

  The three main components of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment. The relationships vary and depend on the presence or absence of each of these components
• Intimacy


  An interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy, characterized by closeness, connectedness, and boundedness
• Passion


  An intense emotion towards a person, a compelling interest for someone, a desire to spend time with a person most of the time
• Commitment


  An act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements with another person, where the values of integrity and respect are evident in the relationship. Ways to express commitment are showing loyalty and conveying honesty
• Types of love based on the triangular theory

  • Liking
  • Infatuation
  • Empty Love
  • Fatuous
  • Companionate
  • Romantic
  • Consummate
• Love styles (Greek names)

  • Philia - Affectionate Love
  • Pragma - Enduring Love
  • Storge - Familiar Love
  • Eros - Romantic Love
  • Ludus - Playful Love
  • Mania - Obsessive Love
  • Philautia - Self Love
  • Agape - Selfless Love
• Love languages


  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch
• Receiving Gifts


  You value giving and receiving gifts and some do not. If you measure your partner's love by how many gifts you are given, then your love language is "receiving gifts".
• Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of the gifts wanted on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift.
• A missed birthday or a thoughtless gift would be disastrous.
• Quality Time


  You measure the quality of love by how much time other people want to spend with you. If you don't get enough "together time," then you might feel unloved.
• Being there for this type of person is critical, but being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks standby makes you feel truly special and loved.
• Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be hurtful.
• Physical Touch


  A person whose primary language is physical touch is not very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding a hand and thoughtful touches on the arm can show excitement, concern, care, and love.
• Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
• Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.
• Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Research shows that a healthy relationship can help you live longer, deal with stress, be healthier, and feel richer.