Personal Development

• Emotional Intelligence (EI)


  The ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and use this information to guide one's thinking and actions
• Emotional Quotient (EQ)


  The awareness of one's emotions and ability to understand the emotions of others
• Those who leverage emotional intelligence have a greater ability to influence, persuade, and connect with others, which ultimately is all about the way we communicate
• Six basic emotionsby Paul Ekman & Wallace Friesen


  • Happiness
  • Sadness
  • Fear
  • Disgust
  • Anger
  • Surprise
• Four branches of Emotional Intelligenceby Salovey & Mayer


  • Perceiving Emotions
  • Reasoning with Emotions
  • Understanding Emotions
  • Managing Emotions
• Perceiving Emotions


  recognize emotions accurately, involves understanding nonverbal signals (body language and facial expressions)
• Reasoning with Emotions


  Using emotions to promote thinking and cognitive creativity
• Understanding Emotions


  Looking into the meaning of the emotion
• Managing Emotions


  crucial part, regulating and responding appropriately to one's own emotions as well as the emotions of others
• Five characteristics of Emotional Intelligence


  • Self-awareness
  • Self-regulation
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • Social skills
• Self-awareness


  MOST IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC Understanding one's emotion - not letting their feelings rule them
• Self-regulation


  Ability to control emotions and impulses, they think before they act
• Motivation


  Being motivated, choosing long-term success over immediate results
• Empathy


  2ND MOST IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC Ability to identify with & understand others, they are good at recognizing the feelings of others
• Social skills


  Ability to connect with others easily, they opt to help others develop and shine instead of their own success
• Reasons we may not express our real emotions

  • Social expectations
  • Vulnerability
  • Protecting others
  • Social and Professional roles
• Speaking in generalities is an ineffective way to express emotions
• Not owning feelings is an ineffective way to express emotions
• Using counterfeit emotional language is an ineffective way to express emotions
• Steps to explore one's positive and negative emotions


  1. Identify the Emotion

  2. Take Action

  3. Get Help with Difficult Emotions
• Emotional Intelligence (EI)


  function is to regulate thinking and behavior
• Salovey & Mayer


  defined Emotional Intelligence
• Emotions

  originate in the subcortical region, the amygdala, and the ventromedial prefrontal cortices, which cause biochemical reactions to occur and change our physical state
• Emotions

  they manifest in the unconscious mind; considered instinctive
• step 1: identify the emotion


  be aware of how you feel, do not hide from yourself, know why you feel the way you do, do not blame, accept all your emotions as natural and understandable
• step 2: take action

  think about the best way to express your emotion, learn how to change your mood, build positive emotions, seek support, exercise
• step 3: get help with difficult emotions


  talk to your parent, trusted adult, counselor, or therapist
• Personal Relationships


  refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
• Teenage Relationships


  form friendships and start to develop intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex
• 3 Kinds of Personal Relationships

  1. Family
  2. Friendships
  3. Partnerships
• Family


  the basic unit in society traditionally consists of two parents rearing their children (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)
• Family


  two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household (Bureau of Census)
• 3 Types of Friendship by Parker & Asher (1993)

  1. Acquaintances
  2. Companions
  3. Intimates or Best friends
• Acquaintances


  Type of friendship whom you join only once in a while or occasionally.
• Companions


  Type of friendship where you share same interests through regular interactions.
• Intimates or best friends


  Type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and support.
• Partnerships (or romantic partnerships) 


  are close relationships formed between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love (including marriage)
• TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE by Robert J. Stemberg


  holds that love can be understood in terms of three components that together can be viewed as forming the vertices of a triangle; including intimacy, passion, and decision or commitment
• Intimacy


  refers to the feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships
• Passion


  refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships