(M10) Filipino Psychology

• Panliligaw


  Tagalog term for courtship, synonymous with pandidiga or digahan
• Dalagang Filipina

  Filipina maiden - discreet, friendly, shy, secretive about real feelings, expected to be conservative and demure
• Tuksuhan


  Usual term associated with pairing off potential couples in Filipino culture, if the girl 'encourages' the suitor then the man can court in earnest
• Basted


  Tagalog slang for someone who failed to reach "first base" in courting a girl because she does not have any feelings for him
• Torpe


  A man who does not know how to court a girl, is playing innocent, or does not know the woman also has an affection for him
• Dungo


  Extremely shy
• Tulay


  A mutual friend who conveys a torpe man's affection to the girl he loves
• Sawi


  Romantically sad, a guy whose love has been turned down by the girl
• Basted


  Busted, a guy whose love has been turned down by the girl
• Labless


  Loveless, a guy whose love has been turned down by the girl
• Ligawan (Courtship)


  1. Man visits the family and introduces himself formally to the parents

  2. Man makes harana (serenade) the woman at night and sing songs of love

  3. Friendly dates, often with a group of friends

  4. Couples may go out on their own, but discreetly

  5. Man performs household chores to please the woman's family (paninilbihan)

  6. Woman is expected to be pakipot (hard to get)
• Magkasintahan


  Boyfriend and girlfriend, after romantic gestures and successful dates
• Pamamanhikan


  After long courtship, the man and his parents visit the woman's family and ask for her parents' blessing to marry
• Tampuhan


  Lover's quarrel, often manifested in total silent treatment or not speaking to each other
• Tampo


  No English equivalent, usually translated as "to sulk" but does not quite mean that
• Kasalan


  • Marriage, a Filipino male desires a child, preferably a son, to prove his pagkalalake (being a man)
  • A newly wed male is teased as pundido (impotent) if his wife does not conceive within few months
  • His indulgence in "querida" system is sometimes tolerated if his wife cannot bear a son
  • A dalaga is expected to remain a birhen (virgin) for the man she will marry, and must be watched, chaperoned, and protected from sexual irresponsibility of men
• Ibig


  Connotes desire, wanting, even an impulse to possess the other
• Mahal


  Implies valuation, the other is prized, valued highly
• Irog


  Fondness or affection of other
• Giliw


  Fondness or affection with a hint of yearning
• Sinta


  Fondness or affection with reciprocity
• Kasintahan


  Term of reference when introducing the other
• Ka-ibig-an


  Friendship with a latent possibility for desire
• Types of Filipino love (Pag-ibig)

  • Wagas na Pag-ibig (True love)
  • Mapagsamantalang Pag-ibig (Exploitative love)
  • Matagumpay na Pag-Ibig (Triumphant Love)
  • Bigong- Pag-Ibig (Unsuccessful Love)
  • Tapat na Pag-ibig (Faithful Love)
  • Mapagtiwalang Pag-ibig (Trusting Love)
  • Mapaghinalang Pag-ibi (Distrustful Love)