PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

• personal relationship

  • we give to another person, interaction with others
• being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage - Lao Tzy
• attraction


  the action or power of evolving interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something; and a quality or feature that evolves interest, liking, or desire
• interpersonal attraction


  positive attitude or evaluation regarding a particular person in relation to different components
• key components of attraction that maybe the reason for someone liking others:

  1. physical
  2. attractiveness
  3. similarity
  4. proximity
  5. reciprocity
• love

  • a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
  • attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers;
  • affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
• An assurance of affection


  being assuredly or surely having affection with others
• "love is one of the important components of a complex neurochemical system that allows the body to adapt to highly emotional situations."

  -Sue Carter and Stephen Porges
• One of the accountable chemicals for the connection of two individuals like between mother and child inside her womb and even after giving birth is Oxytocin (Keverne, 2006)
• oxytocin


  it is a peptide also known as the love hormone, a female reproduction hormone, which helps to deepen the connection between mother and child through breastfeeding.
• together with oxytocin, endorphin, serotonin, and dopamine are so-called "feel good" chemicals that promote strong connections/bonds between people since it releases during happy moments.
• vasopressin

  • it is also a peptide that conveys the behavior of an individual's social engagement(kenkel et al, 2012)
  • one of its role is to produce a behavior of developing stable, loving, and long-term relatiomship with others.
• The serotonin production of newly-in-love individuals increases up to 40% just like with the brain of a drug addict. and, when a person experiences heartbreak, the brain processes just like an addict quitting a heroin habit. (cohen 2007; fisher et. al, 2009)
• in the book of principles of social psychology-1st international edition by dr, charles strangor, he explained robert stenberg's proposed Triangular Model of Love
• 3 attachment styles we display when we interact with our loved ones (eastwick & finkel, 2008)

  1. secure attachment style
  2. anxious/ambivalent attachment style
  3. avoidant attachment style
• commitment


  It is a long-term relationship between individuals. A more complex relationship that resulted to increasingly turn to each other not only for social support but also for help in coordinating activities, remembering dates and appointments, and accomplishing tasks (Wegner, Erber, & Raymond, 1991).
• "Commitment refers to the feelings and action that keep partners working together to maintain the relationship".(Dr. Rajiv Jhangiani and Dr. Hammond Tarry reiterated the Slotter et al., 2011)