It is becoming more and morecommon to have relationships by communicating over social media.Psychologists are interested as to why onlinerelationships seem to disclosemore and developintimacysooner than in real life
absence of gatingmechanisms
Communicating through the internetremoves a number of factors that normally act as filters or barriers, stoppinginteractions in face to faceencounters.Barriers such as level of physical attractiveness, speech defects, agegroup, and being from a differentethnic or socialbackground are lessprominent when you are communicatingindirectly
ReducedCuetheory
This is that computerslack some features of face-to-facecommunication such as non-verbalcommunication via facialexpressions.
This may result in people readingtoomuch into typedcommunication
anonymity
Deindividuation results in a reduction in feelings of responsibility, leading to loss of inhibition due to a lessenedsense of personal responsibility.Individuals can say things online that they never would in reallife. This lack of normaldistancing behaviours as usuallyregulated in face to facecontact may lead to closeness and intimacy but trolling
hyperpersonalmodel
people can manipulate their onlineidentity and significantlycontrolinteractions to display a hyperhonest (self-disclosing) or hyperdishonest version of themselves (creatingmoreattractiveversion of themselves)
Zhao (2008)
found that Facebookusers often present highlyedited, fictionalrepresentations of their trueidentity, presenting a falseversion of their ‘ideal’ self who they consider morelikely to be attractive to others
Supporting the hyperpersonalmodel - hyperdishonest
Walther and Tidwell (1995)
The theories of self-disclosure and absence of gating in virtualrelationships may lack ecological validity because they may not be able to explain all the course of modern-agerelationships, which is often a mixture of virtual and face-to-face elements
Individuals often feel the pressure to portray themselves in the sameway as they have online as in real-life, and so this interaction may offset the effects of fewer gates and self-disclosure in virtualrelationships.
Baker (2010)
found that onlinerelationships allowed shy people to overcome the lack of confidence that normallyprevented them forming face-to-facerelationships. A survey of 207 male and female students found that highshyness and use of Facebook scores correlated with higherperception of friendquality.Lowshyness and highFacebook use was notcorrelated with friendshipquality. This seems to indicate that shypeople may find virtualrelationships particularly rewarding, presumably as the negativeemotions brought about by face-to-face relationships are lessened or removed.