PERDEV/4TH LESSON/M4/4TH QUARTER

• Family legacy


  Social, emotional and spiritual legacy passed on from parent to child
• Every one of us is passed a heritage, lives out a heritage, and gives a heritage to our family
• Parents always pass to their children a legacy … good, bad or some of both
• Spiritual, emotional and social legacy


  Like a three-stranded cord, wrapped together they are strong
• Passing on a positive, affirming legacy is important and a negative legacy can be destructive
• You can decide to pass a positive legacy on to your children whether you received one or not
• If we don't intentionally pass a legacy consistent with our beliefs to our children, our culture will pass along its own, often leading to a negative end
• Passing on a spiritual, emotional and social legacy is a process, not an event
• As parents, we are responsible for the process. God is responsible for the product
• Emotional legacy


  Provides a safe environment, fosters confidence, conveys trusting support, nurtures positive identity, creates a "resting place" for the soul, demonstrates unconditional love
• Social legacy


  Respect, responsibility, unconditional love and acceptance, setting of social boundaries
• Spiritual legacy


  Adopting attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters, parents are primary in spiritual upbringing, not secondary
• Children, particularly young children, perceive God the way they perceive their parents
• If parents are loving, affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they believe, children will think of God that way
• Emotional Legacy Evaluation


  • Dread
  • Tension
  • Chaos
  • Stability
  • Calm
  • Warmth
• Emotional Legacy Evaluation


  • Hateful
  • Angry
  • Sad
  • Serious
  • Relaxed
  • Fun
• Emotional Legacy Evaluation


  • You are worthless
  • You are a burden
  • You are okay
  • You are respected
  • You are important
  • You are the greatest
• Emotional Legacy Evaluation


  • Repulsive
  • Rotten
  • Unpleasant
  • Sterile
  • Fresh
  • Sweet
• Emotional Legacy Evaluation


  • An intense fight
  • The silent treatment
  • Detached apathy
  • A strong disagreement
  • A kind word
  • An affectionate hug
• Social Legacy Evaluation


  • Cruel and abusive
  • Cutting sarcasm
  • Chaotic and distant
  • Non-communicative but stable
  • Secure with open communication
  • Loving and fun
• Social Legacy Evaluation


  • "Step on others to get your way"
  • "Hurt them if they hurt you"
  • "Demand your rights"
  • "Mind your own business"
  • "Treat others with respect"
  • "Put others before yourself"
• Social Legacy Evaluation


  • Independent of relationship
  • In reaction to parental stress
  • Dictatorially
  • Inconsistently
  • Out of concern for my well-being
  • In the context of a loving relationship
• Social Legacy Evaluation


  • Shouting
  • Manipulation
  • Confusing
  • Clear
  • Constructive
  • Courteous
• Social Legacy Evaluation


  • Subtle reinforcement
  • Accepted in the name of love
  • Guilt trip
  • Severe punishment
  • Discussion
  • Loving, firm discipline
• Spiritual Legacy Evaluation


  • Never
  • Rarely
  • Sometimes
  • Frequently
  • Almost always
  • Consistently
• Spiritual Legacy Evaluation


  • Absent
  • Adversarial
  • Fearful
  • Casual
  • Solemn
  • Intimate
• Spiritual Legacy Evaluation


  • Nonexistent
  • Rare
  • Occasional
  • Regimental
  • Active
  • Enthusiastic
• Spiritual Legacy Evaluation


  • They weren't
  • To control
  • To manipulate
  • To teach
  • To influence
  • To reinforce
• Spiritual Legacy Evaluation


  • If it feels good, do it!
  • There are no absolutes
  • Let your heart guide you
  • Dogmatic legalism
  • Moderate conservatism
  • Clear boundaries
• Activity 1: Scrambled word answers

  1. Respect

  2. Parents

  3. Time and consistency

  4. Positive

  5. Emotional legacy

  6. Spiritual legacy

  7. Spiritual legacy

  8. Social legacy

  9. Social interaction

  10. Heritage