THY 2 FINALS UNIT 3

Cards (76)

  • Reproductive function
    We want sex because our continued existence as species depend son it. Children come from sexual intercourse of their parents.
  • Most of the sex right now around the world is NOT PROCREATIVE
  • Desire for physical pleasure
    Not the most important reason for sexual activity
  • Many people are having sex right now without pleasure or any expectation of it
  • Sexual pleasure
    Depends on the presence, and conduct, of others
  • Sex is NOT AUTOMATICALLY ENJOYABLE. Good sex is learned; you have to work for it. It does not show up on its own. And it is not just about you alone
  • Sexual desire
    Is not chiefly aimed at physical pleasure or the production of children, but at CONNECTEDNESS WITH OTHERS
  • Sex
    An INTERACTIVE RITUAL and it follows the rules
  • BENEDICT XVI placed emphasis on the contemporary times being immersed in a mindset and form of culture that induce one to have doubts about the value of the human person, on the very meaning of truth and good, and ultimately about the goodness of life
  • HUMAN SEXUALITY FINDS CRISIS IN APPRECIATING ITS TRUE MEANING
    • The prevalance of RELATIVISM that celebrates man as an absolute arbiter between what s right and what is wrong
    • The abstraction of NIHILISM that propagates the idea of a God who has nothing to do with sexuality and living as though He does not exist
    • The intellection of NATURALISM that reduces man to a simple element of nature whose body is seen as a machine with different parts that are functionally united and devoid of personal meaning
  • Sexuality
    A fundamental component of personality, one of its modes of being, of manfestation, of communication with others, or feeling, of expressing and of living human love
  • Nuptial meaning of the body

    Capacity for love as a self-giving is thus "incarnated" in the nuptial meaning of the ody, which bears the imprint of the person's masculinity and femininity
  • Vocations or states in life
    • Simple blessedness or virginity
    • Marriage faithfulness towards husband and wife
    • Priestly or religious life which requires celibacy
  • Sexuality
    Has love as its intrinsic end, more precisely, love as donation and acceptance love as giving and receiving
  • Relationship between a man and a woman
    Essentially a relationship of love: "Sexuality, oriented, elevated, and integrated by love acquires truly human quality"
  • If we live according to the truth of our sexuality, we fulfill the very meaning of our being and existence. The opposite is also true. If we do not live according to the truth of our sexuality, we miss the meaning of our existence altogether. We forfeit true joy, true happiness.
  • Sexuality
    Affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his/her body and soul. It especially concerns affectivity, the capacity to love and to procreate, and in a more general way the aptitude for forming bonds of communion with others
  • Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts of which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such
  • Marriage is for the family and family is for the kingdom of God. As Lisa Cahill stated "marriage is intimately connected to family"
  • The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.
  • Sensible love
    Geared to satisfying the needs of biological life
  • Rational love
    Rooted in man's spirituality and openness to being. Concupiscent love - seeks the good that will perfect himself. Benevolent love - seeks that which will perfect the beloved.
  • Eros
    When one focuses on himself and seeks his own full expansion in his being
  • Agape
    When one looks to others and devotes himself to their fulfillment
  • Chastity
    The virtue that calls us to use our sexuality in a reasonable, responsible, and faithful manner
  • Every person, whether married or single, is called to live a chaste life. Like any virtue, chastity must be developed and practiced because our sexual attractions and feelings are so strong and intense, often overpowering. True or False

    True
  • Chastity
    Means not having any sexual relations before marriage, means fidelity to husband or wife during marriage. Not primarily a NO TO SEX, but YES TO GOD'S PLAN FOR SEX and our sexuality.
  • Stages of dating in secular society
    Stage 1: Initial meeting/attraction
    Stage 2: Curiosity, interest, and infatuation
    Stage 3: Enlightenment and becoming a couple
    Stage 4: Commitment or engagement
  • Attraction and infatuation
    Most pronounced during the second stage of dating
  • Early attraction often involves the outward appearance, body type, interests and personality traits. At this stage, each half of a couple is generally putting his or her best foot forward. Differences are not noticed or are dismissed as "not a big deal" or "she will change" This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding
  • Enlightenment and becoming a couple
    During this stage, hormones are calming down and reality sets in. Couples often go "deeper" in their connection. Trust is stronger and more intimacies may be shared. Couples will take not of the differences and may even begin to complain or attempt to problem-solve
  • Commitment or engagement

    At this stage, couples should have a good understanding of their partner's values, lifestyle, and goals for the future. There should be a relationship with each other's family and friends. Open and honest conversations should be happening as couples plan their present and future together. Questions about children, finances, careers, future goals, and lifestyle should be discussed more fully
  • Scriptures do not offer specific guidelines for dating and courtship, although courtship and probably dating to some extent, was practiced by the Jews in the first century
  • Modern dating
    Usually done as a recreational thing i.e., spending time with someone to have fun, engage in sexual pleasure and then see where it leads
  • Courtship
    An intentional and purposeful process carried out with marriage as the ultimate goal
  • The 7 habits of highly defective dating
    1. Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment
    2. Dating tends to skip the "friendship" stage of a relationship
    3. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love
    4. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationship
    5. Dating distracts young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future
    6. Dating can cause discontent with God's gift of singleness
    7. Dating creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character
  • Stages of traditional Catholic courtship
    Stage 1: Friendship stage
    Stage 2: Courtship stage
    Stage 3: Engagement / Bethrothal stage
  • Friendship stage

    • - It should last no more than 1-2 months
    • You should avoid being alone together, no emotional intimacy, no signs of physical affection between you
    • Any dates or time spent together should be within a group setting and casual manner of conversation
    • During this stage, you need to be completely detached in order to have clarity of judgment to determine whether he/she has virtue or not
    • Once you two have determined that you intend to court, he needs to approach your father or male head of the home to ask permission to court you and then you two move on to the next stage
  • Courtship stage

    • - It should last between 3 – 6 months
    • No sign of physical affection between you
    • You should avoid being alone together; this shows respect for God and respect for the person that you claim to love
    • You will be spending a little bit more time together in this stage in the company of friends or family members – this way, the public acts as a chaperone
    • You will, at this stage, also get to meet and know each others' families
  • Engagement / Bethrothal stage
    • - 3-5 months
    • To avoid near occasion of sin, any signs of affection should be very limited and in small doses. Avoid alone time together
    • You can hold hands occasionally or give a slight peck, but definitely no French-kissing
    • Deferring to him on major decisions and so on as you both plan for your coming wedding and marriage
    • Should still practice self-control and show self-denial towards you at this stage