personal relationship

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  • PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- Is a form of relationship closely linked to a person and which can only be important
    to that person.
    Kinds of Personal Relationship
    PRIVACY AND INTIMACY-are two attributes describing personal relationships and level of commitment to
    another person.
    IMPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- commitment to an organization like a business entity, a principle or
    purpose.
  • Important Concept of Personal Relationship
    Love - Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
    -attraction based on sexual desire, affection and tenderness felt by lovers
    -affection based on admirations, benevolence, or common interest
    Commitment – it refers to the feelings and actions that keep partners working together to maintain the
    relationship
    Attraction- the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something.
  • Teenage Relationships
    Adolescence is the stage when many personal relationships such as the so-called romantic relationship are
    usually formed. Romantic relationship may begin with being attracted to someone, develop into loving him or her,
    and committing to spend the lifetime with that person.
  • Romantic relationships are the core of the social life of many adolescents from middle to late adolescent
    stages. In these stages, there is much thought, talking, and fantasizing about being in a romantic relationship.
    Though adolescent romantic relationships are short-lived, these have great impact on adolescents’ life. The way
    they handle such early romantic relationships may determine their behavior in their future committed
    relationships in adulthood.
  • Teenage romantic relationship are usually not the serious ones. Often transitory, they are normally
    deemed as more or less "puppy love” kind of relationship. But though they are not expected to end up in marriage,
    they nonetheless play an important role in the daily life of adolescents and have noteworthy implications on their
    mental health and well-being, continuing development, and imminent romantic relationships.
  • Teenage Relationships
    Teenage relationships may start with attraction, develop into love, and, if various factors permit, end up in
    commitment.
  • Attraction

    A precursor to love
  • Attraction
    • Physical or sexual feeling or desire being felt
    • Responsible for the desire to feel (e.g. kiss, hold the hand, or touch) the object of affection
    • The "chemistry" part of love
  • Adolescents
    • Usually attracted to physical beauty
  • Individuals
    • Who display good grooming and hygiene normally get more attention
    • Who are intelligent, with sense of humor, or with good personality
    • Who are sociable, cheerful, and who display positive dispositions are preferred
  • Similarity
    • In interests, intelligence level, socio-economic status, or religious affiliation may also serve as cause of attraction
  • Opposite poles
    Attract
  • Age
    • Adolescents are typically attracted to people of the same age, though girls may tend to prefer older boys
  • Bases of attraction
    • Race or ethnicity
    • Family background
    • Popularity
    • Wealth
  • Some Forms of Attraction
    Crush is a form of attraction. According to author E. Hurlock, crush is "the love of an adolescent toward an older
    member of the same or opposite sex" (as cited in Kapunan, 1971, p. 85). This type of attraction encompasses "a
    transfer of affection from the parents to either a teacher or an older classmate (Kapunan, 1971, p. 85). This is
    why in adolescence, crushes to older individuals are common. The usual bases of crush are the traits which the
    adolescents view as nice, ideal, or admirable. The following are the two types of crush:
    1. Identity crush
    Identity crushes are formed when an adolescent finds someone he/ she admires, wants to imitate,
    or wishes to follow as his/her leader. These often last long because the admirer is using his/her 'crush' in
    shaping his/her values, ideals, personality, and development.
  • Romantic crushes
    Formed when an adolescent finds someone attractive and feels the desire to be around or spend a lot of time with him/her
  • Most romantic crushes are short-lived because there is a tendency for the 'magic' (or charm) of the 'crush' to wear off
  • Romantic crush

    May give an awareness to an adolescent that he/she is capable of having a "romantic love" in the future
  • Desires in both types of crushes
    • To be like the 'crush' in some ways
    • Get his/her approval
    • Be mutually liked by him/her
  • Crushes
    • Can serve as an inspiration to study hard and perform well in an endeavor
  • The common expressions of this form of attraction include seeing and talking with the focus of attention,
    writing love letters or notes, giving gifts, doing errands and other sacrifices for him/her, and referring to him/her
    using terms of endearment.
  • 3. Hero worship is another form of attraction. This is very similar to crush though it differs in the sense
    that it is characterized by the absence of personal contact with the one being admired (or the object of the
    "crush). It is like “celebrity crush" in which the object of affection is loved from afar.
  • Hero worship can serve as an inspiration to strive for success, helping individuals to set and achieve their
    goals. However, the effects on the admirer can either be negative or positive, depending largely on the image of the
    one being 'worshipped’. If the one being 'worshipped' is a bad influence (i.e, manifesting rebellious and other
    negative traits), the admirer or the ‘hero worshipper' may be adversely affected.
  • Courtship
    Courtship can be considered under attraction stage.
    Courtship is a phase in a romantic relationship prior to
    engagement and marriage. It involves the "getting to know each
    other" part which could be a basis for the persons involved
    whether or not they will upgrade their relationship to a higher
    level. The following are the stages of courtship:
    1. Dating
    This is a process which offers opportunity for an individual to know more about another person (especially
    a potential boyfriend girlfriend) and have a friendly association or enjoyable time with him/her. Usual activities in
    dating are eating out in restaurants, strolling on malls, engaging in games together (e.g. computer games and sports
    activities), and watching movies or concerts. In this stage, there is usually no commitment
  • 2. Selective Stage
    After dating, a person decides whether or not to continue 'seeing' a certain individual. In this stage, a
    person also starts selecting the individual who will be his or her "steady," that is, the person with whom he/she
    wants to have a romantic relationship.
  • 3. Going "Steady''
    This is the stage where a sort of romantic relationship is made official. This is marked by the
    presence of mutual understanding between two persons. This stage involves some sort of agreement, such as
    exclusively dating each other and the intention to probably proceed to marriage in the future.
  • 4. Engagement Period
    This is the part where the couple is formally (and usually publicly) known as "engaged. This encompasses a
    sort or contract and promise that on a set date, the engaged couple will marry each other. This also entails setting
    things for the wedding.
    Sociologically, courtship ends either in marriage (wedding or settling down) or formal break up. Life
    coaches and counselors nonetheless suggest that for a relationship to last, courtship should persist even within the
    married life.
  • Ancient Greeks (Gregory 2012) say there are four types of Love
    1. Philia – is love between friends. In Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics, philia is usually translated as
    "friendship" or affection. The complete opposite is called a phobia. It occurs when both people share the
    same values and respect each other — it's commonly referred to as “brotherly love.”
  • 2. Eros – sense of being in love. It is described as passionate love between two individuals. Romantic in
    nature. Eros is physical love or sexual desire.
  • 3. Storge – affectionate love for the family
  • 4. Agapeunconditional love. Suggest something divine, devotional, and sacrificing. In Christianity, agape is
    "the highest form of love, charity" and "the love of God for man and of man for God". This is in contrast to philia,
    brotherly love, or philautia, self-love, as it embraces a profound sacrificial love that transcends and persists
    regardless of circumstance.
  • Philautia is self-love. Philautia refers to how a person views themselves and how they feel about their own
    body and mind. The modern equivalent of philautia would be something like self-esteem (good) or hubris
    (bad).
  • Love, truly, is something which cannot be fully captured in any single definition. As it is subjectively
    defined, there could be as many definitions or the concept as there are many people defining it. Indeed, love can
    really be a many splendored things.
    Love is a very multifaceted and complex concept which could be experienced in every stage of human life-
    childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. As a way of attempting to somewhat grasp what love is, let us study one
    theory about it.
  • The psychologist Robert Sternberg is one of the experts who theorized about love. Based on his
    "triangular theory of love," love has three components such as intimacy, passion, and commitment. Resulting from
    the combination of these components are eight types of love ("Triangular theory of love," n.d.):
  • Three main elements
    1. Commitment – one’s willingness to stay with a certain person.
    b. Intimacy – refer to how connected, bonded, and close one is to someone.
    c. Passion – relates to one’s attraction to a person in a romantic and erotic sense.
  • Nonlove Where the three components of love are absent. This kind of love
    refers to the most common relationship humans make such as
    informal interactions or acquaintances.
  • Liking/friendship Characterized by feelings of closeness without passion
    and commitment.
  • Infatuated love There is an experience of passionate excitement but intimacy and
    decision/commitment are missing. When the feelings do not
    continue to grow with intimacy and commitment, this kind of love
    may suddenly fade.