PERDEV LESSON 7

• PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FOURTH QUARTER 2nd SEMESTER LESSON 7: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
• OPENING PRAYER


  1. CHECKING OF ATTENDANCE

  2. DAILY ROUTINE

  3. CHECKING OF ATTENDANCE

  4. REVIEW OF THE PREVIOUS LESSON

  5. MOTIVATION

  6. DISCUSSION

  7. ACTIVITY
• SITUATIONAL ANALYSIS: Identify whether the following pictures are acceptable or unacceptable expressions of attraction. Acceptable expression of attractions are beneficial for both parties, and unacceptable expressions of attraction displease each individual in a relationship or even the people in the society.
• Acceptable expressions of attraction

  Beneficial for both parties
• Unacceptable expressions of attraction


  Displease each individual in a relationship or even the people in the society
• Three attachments as defined by Ainsworth


  • Secure attachments: Primary caregiver is most of the time present and available when emotional needs of an infant are met
  • Avoidant attachment: Primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even unresponsive to a child's need
  • Anxious attachment: Primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and in meeting of emotional needs
• Even before language was invented, prehistoric humans were already interacting through many other forms of behavior
• They may have learned how to smile or greet each other; Love and affection and even loyalty
• This interaction is necessary for the survival of the group where an individual belonged
• Personal Relationship


  The way which two (2) or more people, groups, countries, society interact with one another
• Survival was the primary reason why human beings have fundamentally exist in the modern world
• Elements of Personal Relationship


  • Attachment
  • Attraction
  • Love and intimacy
  • Commitment
• How attachments are developed


  1. The very first meaningful relationships in every human being encounter is one's mother

  2. Even before birth the mother-child relationship is already established, the intimacy that nurtured during the nine (9) months of pregnancy
• Secure attachments


  Its when the primary caregiver is most of the time present and available when emotional needs of an infant are met
• Avoidant attachment


  Is when the primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even unresponsive to a child's need
• Anxious attachment


  When the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and in meeting of emotional needs
• Attraction


  It involves or unconscious assessment of another person's genes through their physical appearance. These genes are usually determinants of good health, that would also produce healthy children
• Both male and female are often attracted or bilateral symmetry because this is also an indication of Reproductive Health
• Theories of attraction according to Rozenberg


  • Transference Effect
  • Propinquity Effect
  • Similarity
  • Reciprocity
  • Physical Attractiveness
  • Personality characteristics and traits
• Transference Effect


  There are times we meet people who immediately like or dislike. Usually these people remind us of someone in the past who has affected our sense of self and our behavior
• Propinquity Effect


  We often develop a sense of familiarity with people who live to close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which them to liking more
• Similarity


  We often like people who we have similarities, with such social class background, religious beliefs, age and education. We are often attracted to like-minded person and those who have similar beliefs
• Reciprocity


  "We like people who likes us back." according to research reciprocity is a stronger basis for liking one another person that similarity. The more we like someone we are equally like, the more we behave in ways to promote mutual feelings
• Physical Attractiveness


  Physical attractiveness can be a major factor in liking someone, and usually, first impressions counts a lot too. Both male and female are equal in their preferences for physical attractiveness. It connotes positive health and reproductive fitness
• Personality characteristics and traits


  People get attracted for two (2) characteristics that lead to liking the other person. These are: emphatic person, who exude warmth and sympathy. Socially competent person who are good communicators and enjoy good conversations
• Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship
• Communication is not important in a romantic relationship
• It is important to have boundaries in a relationship
• Respect is earned, not given in a relationship
• Jealousy is a sign of love
• Love and Intimacy


  Love is a feeling of deep affection, passion or strong liking
• Concepts of Love


  • Love can be a sexual desire or activity; pleasure of love; a night of love
  • Love can be a strong feeling of affection and concern with sexual attraction
  • Love can be a strong devotion towards god or a spiritual entity
  • Love can be a strong feeling of affection and concern towards one another
• Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

  Commitment: Saying yes and meaning it
• Commitment


  A continuing process of showing love and affection
• 3 Variables related to commitment


  • Accumulation of all rewards in the relationship
  • Temptation or alternative partners
  • Investments made by couple
• Behaviors that spoils commitment


  • Consistently finding faults in partners
  • Tone of criticism
  • Denial of Existence of conflict
  • CONTEMPT
• FRIENDSHIP SPOTLIGHT ANALOGY: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviors related to healthy and unhealthy relationships. The purpose of this activity is to explore relationships using stoplight analogy.
• RED – Stop! These are bad sign of relationship. GREEN – Go! These are good signs in a friendship
• Friendship Spotlight Analogy


  • You are afraid of your friend's temper
  • Your friend threatens to hurt you
  • You enjoy being with this person but you also enjoy spending time with other friends
  • You say that you agree with your friends, even though you really don't
  • You are afraid they won't be your friend anymore, if you disagree
  • Your friend pressures you to do things you do not want to do
  • You rarely get to plan what the two of you will do together
  • Your friend tells you not to hang out with certain people
  • You are nervous that if you tell your friend something personal, he/she will tell other people at school
• Responsibilities in a Relationship


  • Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person
  • Be responsible for what you promise to do and not do
  • Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial
  • Respect the other party or parties involved
  • Be ready to provide support when needed