PERDEV L8

• Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions


  Robert Plutchik, an American psychologist, identified eight core emotions: joy, trust, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, and anticipation

  
• Core emotions can intensify, become milder, or even combine to produce any emotional state
• 1 Corinthians 13:4-8: 'Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.'
• Love


  A mix of emotions, behaviors, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person
• A person cannot go through one lifetime without loving, or without being loved
• Attraction


  Short-lived, while love is long-lasting
• Factors that can account for the development of attraction


  • Physical attraction
  • Similarities
  • Reciprocity of feelings
• Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love


  • Intimacy
  • Passion
  • Decision to commit
• The Five Love Languages


  • Words of affirmation
  • Physical touch
  • Quality time
  • Receiving (and giving) gifts
  • Acts of service
• It is necessary to know the love language of our loved one/s to express love effectively
• Healthy Expressions of Love


  • Honesty and trust
  • Mutual respect
  • Support
  • Learning to compromise
  • Give space for individual growth
• Relationship Red Flags


  • Placing too many restrictions that affect your growth
  • Abuse in all forms
  • Forcing a partner to do sexual acts that go against ingrained values or personal beliefs
  • Conditional love
• Felice Leonardo Buscalia (Dr. Love): 'A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love, live, to love himself, to love being loved.'