ATtraction, Love Intimacy

• Making contact with other people (De Lamater Myers, Collet)

  ROutine Activities, Physical proximity, Familiarity
• Familiarity breeds ______
• • What are acceptable or not in a given group or society 


  Social Norms
• having the idea that what is beautiful is good

  Physical Attractiveness
• looking at the rewards and costs of a relationship, making contact, following scripts

  Exchange Processes
• Factors that develop from attraction to liking


  a.a Similarity - interests and attitudes

  b. Shared activities

  c. Reciprocal Liking
• perceiving that the other person also likes you

  Reciprocal Liking
• Who proposed the triangular THeory of Love in 1986

  Sternberg
• What are the 7 types of love

  a Liking

  b. Romantic Love

  c. Companionate

  d. Infatuation

  e. Fatuous Love

  f. EMpty Love

  g. Consummate Love
• Type of love; only intimacy


  Liking
• Type of love; intimacy + commitment

  companionate
• Type of love; commitment

  empty love
• Type of love; passion + intimacy

  romantic love
• Type of love; passion

  infatuation
• Type of love; passion + commitment

  Fatuous Love
• Type of love; intimacy + passion + commitment

  consummate love
• love triangles that is dependent on amount and balance of love

  Geometry of Love Triangles
• real vs. ideal love triangle

  triangles of feelings vs action

  Multiplicity of Triangles
• 2 Duplex THeory of Love

  • Structure of Love
  • Development of Love
• triangular theory of love


  structure of love
• theory of love as a story

  development of love
• Taxonomy of some love stories

  1. Addiction

  2. Art

  3. Business

  4. Collection

  5. Cookbook

  6. Fantasy

  7. Game

  8. Gardening

  9. Govenrment

  10. History
• German-American social thinker, psychoanalyst, and philosopher; part of Frankfurt school; radical humanist

  Erich Fromm
• struggle with the problem of separateness; brings anxiety

  Humans
• In the modern capitalist world, ____ has become a means to an end- a commodity that can be exchanged and consumed

  Love
• is an art that does not provide prescriptions

  Love
• enumerates qualities that should be nurtured; discipline, concentration, patience, having supreme concern

  Love