PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

• SURVIVAL


  Was the main reason why human beings have the fundamental need to belong
• ATTRACTION AND RELATIONSHIP


  Has been examined and findings demonstrate the relationship are essential to one's happiness (Berscheid, 1985)
• PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP


  Is the way in which 2 or more people, groups, countries, talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other
• TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP

  Transactional

  Professional

  Family

  Friendly

  Romantic
• PRIVACY AND INTIMACY


  -2 characteristics that define personal relationship

  -Personal development involves a degree of commitment to other person
• The very first meaningful relationship human being encounters is with one's mother
• Our succeeding relationship in the future are all shaped to a large extent by our attachment to - our parents
• Attachment style by- AINSWORTH 2008
• SECURE ATTACHMENT


  when the primary caregiver is most of the time present and available and when all the emotional needs of an infant are met
• ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT


  when the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and meeting a child’s emotional needs
• AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT


  When the
• BBC SCIENCE(2014)- ATTRACTION


  the first stage in a continuum of stages that lead to intimacy and commitment
• HELEN FISHER


  Attraction is primarily based on physiology
• 3 STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE

  LUST

  ATTRACTION

  ATTACHMENT
• LUST


  Driven by sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen. These hormones affect both sexes.
• ATTRACTION


  The love struck phase, which involves neurotransmitters in the brain. A person loses sleep and appetite over someone
• ATTACHMENT


  When the couple in love decides to continue with the relationship. Special hormones are also secreted during this stage.
• Both male and female are often attracted to bilateral symmetry because this is also an indication of reproductive health
• PHEROMONES


  an odorless chemical found in urine and sweat, and can only be detected through an organ as the nose, can be an indication of a person’s immune system.
• women prefer men whose immune systems differ from theirs.

  Women are also attracted to men who smell similar to their father.
• QUARTERLY THEORIES ON ATTRACTION

  TRANSFERENCE EFFECT

  PROPINQUITY EFFECT

  SIMILARITY

  RECIPROCITY

  PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS

  PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS AND TRAITS
• TRANSFERENCE EFFECT


  Sometimes we meet people who we immediately like or dislike. Our past relationships can affect our current interactions with people
• PROPINQUITY EFFECT


  Points to proximity as another possible factor why we like a person. We often develop a sense of familiarity with people we live close to; we lead us to liking them.
• SIMILARITY


  We are often attracted to people whom we are similar with. Similarity is a strong factor in friendship and in the selection of a mate
• RECIPROCITY


  We like people who like us back. The more we are liked by someone we equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings or liking.
• PHYSICLA ATTRACTIVENESS


  First impression counts a lot. Both males and females are equal in their preference for physical attractiveness
• Some women consider income potential, integrity, and stability as attractive traits
• Empathic, optimistic, socially competent, good communicators, and cheerful, are the likable characteristics
• LOVE


  A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, at that arising from kinship or close friendship
• LOVE - is an emotion, a feeling, a virtue, an action, and an experience.
• INTIMACY


  that lovely moment when someone understands and validates us
• COMMITMENT


  An act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreement made with another person
• PASSION


  is the intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.

  -In terms of romantic love, it connotes sexual attraction as well as intimacy
• 3 VARIABLES OF COMMITMENT


  Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship

  Temptation of Alternative Partners

  Investment made by the couple in the relationship
• Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship

  considered as the most important determinant of satisfaction in a relationship
• Temptation of Alternative Partners 


  the presence of possible alternatives for another partner can rock the relationship and destabilize the commitment of a couple.
• Investment made by the couple in the relationship 


  include time spent together, common beliefs and experiences, mutual friends and bearing children.