love and attraction

• being attracted to someone based on their physical looks

  or features.

  physical attraction
• This involves being attracted to someone based on their

  personality.

  social attraction
• which involves being attracted to someone based on their abilities.

  task attraction
• element of attraction

  proximity, physical attractiveness, similarity, complementarity, and reciprocity
• This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is

  intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.

  eros
• Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those

  same feelings again with someone new.

  eros
• passionate love

  eros
• view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this

  can be a multiplayer game! Ludic

  individuals are comfortable with deception

  and manipulation in their relationships.

  They tend to be low on commitment and are

  often emotionally distant.

  ludus
• are more focused

  on the short term, they tend to place greater

  importance on the physical characteristics

  of their mate than do the other love styles.

  They are also more likely to engage in

  sexual hookups.

  ludic individuals
• game-playing love

  ludus
• friendship love

  storge
• tend to be stable and committed

  in their relationships. They value

  companionship, psychological closeness and

  trust. For these individuals, love relationships

  can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that

  love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is

  enduring, and these individuals are in it for the

  long haul.

  storge
• Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like

  approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.

  pragma
• practical love 


  pragma
• This refers to an obsessive love style.

  These individuals tend to be emotionally

  dependent and to need fairly constant

  reassurance in a relationship. Someone

  with this love style is likely to experience

  peaks of joy and troughs of sorrow,

  depending on the extent to which their

  partner can accommodate their needs.

  mania
• possessive or dependent love

  mania
• Because of the possessiveness associated

  with this style, jealousy can be an issue for

  these individuals.

  mania
• giving and caring, and

  are centred on their partner’s needs. This is

  largely a selfless and unconditional love. An

  agapic partner will love you just as you are.

  But they will also be particularly appreciative

  of acts of care and kindness that they receive

  back from their partner.

  agape
• Perhaps because these individuals are so

  accepting, they tend to have very high levels

  of relationship satisfaction.

  agape
• altruistic love


  agape
• closeness or relatedness to another person.

  intimacy
• sexual or physical attraction to another person.

  passion
• desire to stay together with your partner for a long period of time

  commitment
• No intimacy, no passion and there is no commitment.

  ex: stranger

  non-love
• Intimacy but there is no passion and commitment.

  ex: friends

  friendship/liking
• Passion but there is no intimacy and commitment.

  Ex: crush or idol

  infatuation
• Passion but there is no intimacy and commitment.

  ex: arranged marriage

  empty love
• Intimacy + Passion

  but there is no commitment.

  romantic love
• Passion + commitment but there is no intimacy.

  Example: Whirlwind type of love, love at first then followed by marriage

  fatuous love
• I+ C but there without passion.

  Companionate Love
• I+P+C perfect type of love.

  Very hard to obtain and maintain.

  Consummate Love
• what are the three component of love

  intimacy, passion, commitment
• what are the five love language

  WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

  QUALITY TIME

  RECEIVING GIFTS

  ACTS OF SERVICE

  PHYSICAL TOUCH