ATTRACTION, LOVE, & CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

• Consensual validation


  our own attitudes and values are supported when someone else's attitudes and values are similar to us -- theirs validate ours
• Matching hypothesis


  we end up choosing someone who is close to our own level of attractiveness
• Intimacy


  Self-disclosure and sharing of private thoughts are hallmarks of intimacy.
• Intimacy and independency 


  delicate balance between intimacy and commitment on the other hand and independence and freedom on the other
• PROS - Friendship between men and women 


  Learning more about common feelings, Understanding knowledge and beliefs typical of the other gender
• CONS - Friendship between men and women


  Unclear sexual boundaries, tension and confusion
• Romantic Love (passionate love or eros)


  has strong sexual and infatuation components
• Affection love (companionate love)


  characterized by deep, caring affection
• Consummate love


  fullest form of love, characterized by passion, intimacy and commitment