Lesson 1

• Complete the statement:

  Survival is the primary reason why we have a need to belong.
• This is the type of relationship which is closely associated with a person, and which can only have meaning to this person.

  Personal Relationship
• Personal Relationship 


  It involves a degree of commitment to another person.
• Who is the very first meaningful relationship every human being encountered?

  Mother
• Our relationships in the future are shaped to a large extent by our attachment to our parents.
• What are the THREE Attachment Theory of Mary Ainsworth?


  • Secure Attachment

  • Avoidant Attachment

  • Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment
• Secure Attachment 


  Will grow up to have more stable relationships.
• Avoidant Attachment 


  The child senses rejection which leads to detachment.
• Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment 


  When the caregiver is inconsistent, the child may develop mixed feelings.
• What are the THREE Stages of Falling according to Helen Fisher? 


  • Lust

  • Attraction

  • Attachment
• Lust


  Driven by sex hormones, testosterone and estrogen.
• Attraction 


  Involves neurotransmitters such as dopamine, neropinephrine, and serotonin.
• Attachment 


  Log-lasting commitment are exchanged.
• What are the Other SIX Reasons for Attraction?

  • Transference

  • Propinquity Effect

  • Similarity

  • Reciprocity

  • Physical Attractiveness

  • Personality
• Transference 


  Sometimes when we meet people, we are reminded of someone we know in the past.
• Propinquity Effect 


  We develop a sense of familiarity with people who are close to us.
• Similarity 


  We are often attracted to like-minded persons.
• Reciprocity 


  We like people who like us back.
• Physical Attractiveness 


  Connotes positive health and reproductive fitness.
• Personality 


  Possessing desirable traits such as optimism and empathy.
• What are the FIVE Responsibilities in a Relationship? 


  • Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.

  • Be responsible for what you promise to do or not do.

  • Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.

  • Respect the other parties involved.

  • Be ready when support is needed.
• What is in Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love?


  • Liking = Intimacy only

  • Compassionate Love = Commitment + Intimacy

  • Simply Love = Commitment only

  • Fatuous Love = Passion + Commitment

  • Infatuation= Passion only

  • Romantic Love = Intimacy + Passion