EMOTIONAL

• emotion


  biological experience and response
• feelings


  mental portrayal of what is going on in your body when you have emotion
• emotions are physiological and feelings are subjective experiences
• emotional intelligence (eq)


  • one's ability to understand emotion and for them to contribute in how one perceives his/her environment
  • includes capacity to regulate emotion and be aware which one is helpful for emotional and intellectual growth
  • requirement for one's overall well-being
  • can translate effective functioning in all aspects of one's life
• high EQ have positive impact in various settings such as our thinking abilities, social competence and even in the workplace as well as our daily life
• 3 models of emotional intelligence


  • mayer, salovey, & caruso
  • goleman
  • bar-on
• mayer, salovey, caruso


  • emotional perception and expression
  • emotional facilitation (sound judgement)
  • emotional understanding and analysis
  • reflective emotional regulation
• goleman


  • self-awareness
  • self-management
  • social awareness
  • relationship management
• bar-on


  • self-perception
  • self-expression
  • interpersonal
  • decision-making
  • stress management
• adolescence


  turbulent time of development due to all the changes that they go through
• emotional growth is a crucial point.
• In order to establish emotional efficacy and maturity, emotional regulation must be learned
• Emotional regulation


  attempt to influence emotion and can be applied in interacting with the self and others
• 2 forms of Emotional regulation


  cognitive reappraisal, suppression
• Cognitive reappraisal


  evaluation of the situation prior to making personal, subjective valuations about it
• Suppression


  denial and masking of facial expressions to hide one’s current emotional state.
• individuals have the following characteristics when they have reached emotional maturity and efficacy.


  Self-control, Adaptability, Trustworthiness, Innovation, Conscientiousness, Empathy
• How do we develop emotional regulation?


  • can be learned primarily through observational and social referencing particularly through the family.
  • school
• tips


  • Smile to make yourself feel good.
  • Breathe
  • Smile to make others feel good.
  • Talk to someone
  • Get up and move
  • Disengage and re-engage emotions
  • Check in with your body
  • Label your emotions
  • Physically remove the tension
  • Label your emotions for others.
• different studies about love

  • Helen Fischer - phases of romantic love
  • John Lee - Love styles
  • Robert Sternberg - Triangular theory of love
• Helen Fisher – Phases of Romantic Love Stages


  lust, attraction, attachment
• lust


  Intense craving for sexual contact

  Androgen, estrogen; pheromones
• attraction


  Infatuation, Energy and attention is focused on one particular person

  High dopamine & nor epinephrine, Low serotonin
• Attachment


  Long term bond between partners

  Oxytocin; vasopressin
• John Lee's Love Styles 


  eros, agape, storge, ludus, mania, pragma
• Eros


  Based on strong sexual & emotional component; quick to fall in & out of love
• Agape


  Altruistic & selfless love; doesn’t expect something in return
• Storge


  Love-related friendship; slow and gradual process
• Ludus


  Fun; don’t value commitment or intimacy; no jealousy
• Mania


  Intense feeling that can lead to obsessive & possessive love
• Pragma


  Practical & business-like love; based on what is appropriate
• Robert Sternberg's Triangular theory of Love

  liking, empty love, infatuation, companionate, fatuous love, romantic love, consummate love
• liking


  intimacy
• empty love


  commitment
• infatuation


  passion
• companionate


  intimacy + commitment
• fatuous love


  passion + commitment
• romantic love


  passion + intimacy
• consummate love


  intimacy + passion + commitment