Personal Relationships

• Intimate or Close Relationship

  -          It is characterized by self-disclosure and your capacity to others. You become more involved in your relationships that make you psychologically attached with significant people.

   
• F R I E N D S H I P

  It is a form of relationship between two or more people.
• F R I E N D S H I P - It is characterized by a more mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing.
• Friendship - emotional investment is also great at this stage.
• q  You look at your friends as confidants.

   
• Parker & Asher Three Types of Friendship

   

  1.       Acquaintances - are a type of friendship whom you join only once in a while or occasionally.

  2.        Companions - are a type of friendship where you share same interest through regular interactions.

  3.        Intimates - or best friends are a type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and support.

   
• 1.       Acquaintances - are a type of friendship whom you join only once in a while or occasionally.
•  Companions - are a type of friendship where you share same interest through regular interactions
• 1.       Intimates - or best friends are a type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and support.

   
• Arthur (1999) two types of Peer Groups

  1. Clique - is usually composed of smaller member (4-6) and is exclusive to peers who share the same interests.
  2.  Crowd - A larger peer group, composed of 10-20 members, is called a crowd. Members shared similar social activities.

   
• 1. Clique - is usually composed of smaller member (4-6) and is exclusive to peers who share the same interests.
• 1. Crowd - A larger peer group, composed of 10-20 members, is called a crowd. Members shared similar social activities.
• In a study conducted by Furman, it was found out that among girls, having friends as a source of social support is more common, compared with boys.
• In your attempt to become part of the group, you may dwell in the so-called interpersonal relationship or pakikisama.
• As you become more capable of forming intimate relationship during adolescence, the emergence of romantic relationships may occur.
• 1. Discovery of Interest - (1st Phase) is done through

  socialization with potential romantic partner.
• 1.  Dating - (2nd Phase) is done as a way to get to know each other. It may be seen as a form of establishing emotional and behavioral autonomy from parents.
• 1.  Commitment - (3rd   Phase) is the stage where adolescents think about survival and growth in their relationship with others.
• A very powerful definition of love by Scott Peck states that love is “the person’s ability to extend himself or herself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.”
• Expressions of Love and Commitment

  q  Love is a choice.

  q   Love involves trust & commitment

  q   Capable of sacrificing your wants for your loved one.

   
• q  Love involves trust & commitment
• Cons of Love and Commitment

  q  Some teenagers fail to define the boundaries.

  q   Exclusivity is demonstrated by their togetherness.

  q  Conflicts or misunderstandings may arise.

  q  Some teenagers may get too emotionally attached to their partner.

   
• Ø  Clarify your boundaries - Setting clear limits is essential in personal relationships.

  ü  Physical Distance

  ü  Socio-emotional limitations
• Ø  Learn to communicate - Communication is a very powerful tool to maintain healthy relationships, whether they be friendships or romantic relationships.

   
• Ø  Invest in an emotional bank account -  Steven Covey states that an emotional bank account is a metaphor describing the amount of trust that we invest in our relationship.
• Ø  Consult professionals - At times, when you feel bothered about a relationship, do not hesitate to talk to others.