filipino courtship

• Ilocos and Tagalog regions

  Serenading is known as tapat, "to be in front of the woman’s house” likely the

  same to harana and also to the balagtasan of the Tagalogs. The suitor begins singing a romantic

  song, and then the courted lady responds by singing, too.
• Serenading is known as tapat, "to be in front of the woman’s house” likely the same to harana and also to the balagtasan of the Tagalogs.
• The suitor begins singing a romantic song, and then the courted lady responds by singing, too.
• Rooster courtship is a form of courting in Luzon.
• The rooster is assigned to be the “negotiator”, wherein, the male chicken is left at the house of the courted lady to crow every morning for the admired lady’s family.
• Bulaqueños have a kind of courtship known as the naninilong which means serenading from the basement.
• At midnight, the suitor goes beneath the nipa hut, a house that is elevated by bamboo poles, and then pricks the admired woman by using a pointed object to catch the attention of the sleeping lady, after which they converse in whispers.
• The Ifugaos practice a courtship called ca-i-sing or ebgan to Kalingas and pangisto to Tingguians, where a man and a woman are separated into "houses".
• The house for the males is called Ato, while the house for females is known as the olog or agamang.
• The man visits the woman’s house to sing romantic songs and the woman replies to these songs also through singing.
• The courtship ritual is guarded by the elders who inform the parents of both parties about the progress of the courtship process.
• In Batangas a traditional eve of the wedding procession is done.
• The purpose of the Batangas eve of the wedding procession is to bring the cooking ingredients for the celebration to the bride’s home, where refreshments await.
• Men manifest their sincerity and loyalty to the women they are courting through their gestures and actions.
• The women are serenaded with Tagalog love songs which are accompanied by the playing of a guitar.
• Men serve the family and relatives of the women being courted by doing household chores such as chopping wood, fetching water, cleaning the surroundings, etc.
• Through these various services a man’s determination and trustworthiness are tested.
• In Pangasinan, folks utilizes the taga-amo, which means "tamer", a form of love potions or charms which can be rubbed to the skin of the admired.
• The taga-amo can also be in the form of a necklace.
• The service normally lasts for approximately a year before the man and woman can get married.
• The suitor may also resort to the use of palabas, meaning “show or drama”, wherein the woman succumbs to revealing her love to her suitor, who on the other hand pretends to commit suicide if the lady does not confess her true feelings.
• The Bogobo’s, on the other hand, send a knife or a spear as a gift to the home of the courted woman for inspection.
• The Apayaos has a practice that allows a man and a woman to sleep together during the night, known as mahal-alay.
• They also use love potions to win the affection of the woman.
• They also write love letters that are sent through a trusted friend or relative of the woman.
• Presents are not only given to the woman, but also to her relatives.
• Cebuanos also resort to serenading, called balak.
• The suitor accomplishes household and farm chores for the family of the woman.
• This also involves discussions regarding the price and the form of the dowry.
• In Palawan, they perform courtship through the use of love riddles or pasaguli.
• This form of courting assists in assessing the woman’s feeling for her lover.
• After the pabalic/pabalik is done to settle the price in a form of dowry that will be received by the woman from the courting man.
• It is also referred to as subok - a trial or test period for the serving suitor.
• Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or magpasumbahi, is practiced by the Tausugs of Mindanao.
• Pre-arranged marriages and betrothals are common to Muslims.
• If the father of the woman refuses to give her daughter’s hand to the suitor, the suitor is smitten by a knife.
• A suitor would threaten to stab his heart while in front of the courted woman’s father.
• The purpose of the love riddles is to assess the sentiments of the parents of both suitor and admirer.
• Men from Leyte perform the pangagad or paninilbihan instead of paying a form of dowry during courtship.
• Accenting the weapon is equivalent to accepting the man’s romantic intention and advances.