Personal Development

• emotion is a reaction to any stimulus and come from your limbic system, the area in your brain that reacts automatically to the world around you without rational thought or reasoning
• aspects or components of emotions: cognitive, physical, behavioral
• cognitive component - the person's appraisal of the situation
• physical component - body's reaction to feelings or emotions
• behavioral component - action or tendency to deal with certain emotions such as evading a frightening situation or leaving unfinished tasks because of boredom
• types of emotions: positive and negative emotions
• positive emotions: pleasant and provide a good feeling, helps to become more motivated in tasks, associated with good physical and psychological conditions, and warms our hearts and make us value our relationships.
• negative emotions: unpleasant and cause feeling of discomfort, and reduces the efficiency and motivation to perform certain tasks
• emotional intelligence (EQ/EI) is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions in ourselves and others
• high emotional intelligence: accepts self and others, can communicate assertively, and displays empathy
• low emotional intelligence: not accepting self and others, uses passive or aggressive communication, and lacks empathy
• emotional intelligence (EQ/EI) is the ability to motivate oneself despite frustrations, the capacity to control impulses, and the ability to empathize others
• an emotionally intelligent person is not only capable of recognizing their own feelings but is also competent in identifying how various emotions affect them
• identifying an emotion means naming or describing it
• understanding emotion means making sense and meaning of what you feel
• using your emotions means drawing on your emotions to direct your actions, make decisions, and work with your reason to your advantage
• personal relationships - close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. these bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences
• teenage relationships: friendship and childhood friendships
• friendship - a form of relationship between two or more people. it is during adolescence that you make time for friends and even hang out with them
• childhood friendships - focused on play activities while teenage friendships are characterized by a more mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing
• 3 types of friendships: acquaintances, companions, and intimates or best friends
• acquaintances - those whom you join only once in a while or occasionally
• companions - you share same interests through regular interactions
• intimates or best friends - a type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and support. you communicate regularly
• romantic relationships - includes marriage, close relationships formed between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love
• romantic realtionship is a kind of relationship with only one person at a time
• dating is very common among adolescents. it is usually done as a way to get to know each other
• stages of love - lust, attraction, and attachment
• lust - driven by sex hormones
• attraction - individual feels so highly love-struck - dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin are the chemicals in the body that give you the feeling of being exhilarated
• attachment - when attraction subsided and a deeper relationship has developed, leading to a long, serious commitment when building a family and raising children
• elements in a relationship: maturity, time and readiness, communication skills, acceptance, respect, support, and understanding
• five love languages: words of affirmation, act of service, physical touch, quality time, and gifts
• red flags: too many limitations that affect your growth, abuse in any form, conditional love, forcing the other into doing sexual activities that violate his/her values.