Intimacy: Ability to share feelings, personal thoughts, and psychological closeness
Commitment: Conscious decision to stay together
Theory of Love according to Robert Sternberg
Intimacy: Feelings of attachment, closeness, typified by sharing secrets, etc.
Passion: Feelings of sexual and romantic attraction
Commitment: A willingness in the short-term to create and maintain a relationship and long-term plans to sustain the relationship
Passion can be found in the early stages of a relationship, but intimacy takes time to develop because it is based on knowledge of the partner. Once intimacy has been established, partners may resolve to stay in the relationship
Personal Relationship
Close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions
Albert Einstein: 'You cannot blame gravity for falling in love'
Importance of Personal Relationships
Live longer
Deal with stress
Be healthier
Feel richer
Types of Love according to Lee
Pragma: Emphasizes practical aspects of love
Mania: Characterized by volatility, insecurity, and possessiveness
Agape: Altruistic, selfless love
Eros: Erotic love
Poor social support has been linked to depression and loneliness and has been shown to alter brain function and increase the risk of (a) Alcohol use (b) Cardiovascular disease (c) Depression (d) Decrease immune function (e) Suicide
References
Libed Glenda, Borres Jerwin (2018). Personal Development C and E. Publishing, Inc.
Llaneza-Ramos, Ma. Lourdes (2017). Personality Development. C and E. Publishing, Inc.
Wong-Fernandez, Barbara et al. (2016) Personality Development Reader. Sunshine Interlinks Publishing house, Inc.
Storge love
Love that develops slowly over time, often starting as a friendship and becoming sexual later, likely to remain friends even after breakup
Rubric criteria
Organization
Level of Content
Development
Grammar, Usage, Mechanics & Spelling
Eros love
Erotic style of loving where physical chemistry and emotional involvement are important
Essay questions about love to be answered in the Journal
Essay questions about love
Why do people fall in love? Explain in biological, psychological, and philosophical perspective
Why do people fall out of love?
Why do people cheat?
Agape love
Altruistic, selfless love where partners give without expecting anything in return, placing partner's happiness above their own
Rubrics for evaluating essay answers
Lasallian Core Values
Nurturing Potentials
Share experiences on journal about 10 acts of kindness
Post-Task: Write reflection in discussion
Reflection
Ludus love
Style of loving that emphasizes the game of seduction and fun, stays away from commitment, may have several love interests, does not self-disclose easily
Difficulty sleeping when in love and feeling emotions intensely
Color Wheel Model of Love
Eros: Passionate or erotic love
Ludos: Playful and fun love
Storge: Familial love between parents and children
Triangular theory of love components
Intimacy: Feelings of attachment, closeness
Passion: Feelings of sexual and romantic attraction
Commitment: Willingness to create and maintain a relationship
Types of love in the Triangular theory
Non-love
Liking/friendship
Infatuated love
Empty love
Romantic love
Companionate love
Fatuous love
Consummate love
Family
Two or more persons related by birth, marriage, or adoption, living together as one household
Romantic Partnership
Close relationships formed between two people built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love, usually experienced with only one person at a time
Friendship
A close tie between two people built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding
Personal relationships
Close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions, often strengthened by mutual experiences
Theory of Love
Triangular theory of love according to Robert Sternberg
Health consequences of low social support
Depression
Decreased immune function
Higher blood pressure
Most common relationship problems
Infidelity
Sexual issues
Traumatic changes
Boredom
Addiction
Pregnancy
Three primary styles of love according to Lee
Mania (Eros + Ludos): Obsessive love
Pragma (Ludos + Storge): Realistic and practical love
Agape (Eros + Storge): Selfless love
Importance of personal relationships
Live longer
Deal with stress
Be healthier
Feel richer
Objectives of the module
1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions
2. Express ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship