Chapter 12

• Microexpressions

  • Very brief, sudden emotional expressions that are hard to control
  • Facial expressions that occur within a fraction of a second. This involuntary emotional leakage exposes a person's true emotions
• Duchenne Smile - full expression including the muscles around the eyes, difficult to produce voluntarily
• Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

  • Self Awareness
  • Empathy
  • Motivation
  • Self Regulation
  • Social Skills
• Fear - a response to an immediate danger 


  Anxiety - a vague sense that something bad might happen
• Disgust - a reaction to something that would make you feel contaminated if it got into your mouth
• Embarrassment - a feeling of self-consciousness, shame, or awkwardness

  • Children aren't aware of it, it happens as we become more self-aware

  Causes:

  • Mistakes
  • Being the center of attention
  • Sticky situations
• Type A Personality

  • Highly competitive insisting on always winning
  • Impatient and often hostile
  • Impatient, Competitive, Work-Obsessed, Achievement-Oriented, Aggressive, Stressed

  Type B Personality

  • Easygoing, Flexible, Emotional, Relaxed, Expressive, Laid-Back
• Problem-Focused Coping

  • Doing something to improve the situation
  • Targets the causes of stress in practical ways which tackles the problem or stressful situation that is causing stress, consequently reducing stress
• Reappraisal - reinterpreting the situation to make it seem less threatening
• Emotion-Focused Coping

  • Regulating one's emotional reaction
• Emotion-Focused Coping Skills

  • exercise
  • music
  • journaling


  Problem-Focused Coping Skills

  • work on time-management
  • establish healthy boundaries
  • ask for support