Personal Relationships

• Tom Hanks: 'Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind, a dash of optimism, and a great deal of candor.'
• Intimate or close relationships


  Characterized by self-disclosure and your capacity to trust others
• Relationship


  A state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection)
• Relationship


  • Any form of relationship is said to be a two-way traffic
  • There are different kinds of relationships and each of us has a precise definition for each form of relationship have our means of building these relationships and keeping them stronger
• Privacy and Intimacy


  Are two attributes describing personal relationships and level of commitment to another person/s
• Impersonal Relationship


  Commitment to an organization like a business entity, a principle or purpose
• Attraction


  A force that unites people and can grow into an attachment which eventually leads to commitment
• Personal Relationship


  Refers to the close connection between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
• Concept of Personal Relationship


  • Attraction
  • Love
  • Commitment
• 9 Things Unacceptable in a Relationship


  • Cheating
  • Putting your own down
  • Not supporting your dreams
  • Controlling
  • Lack of communication
  • Unreliability
  • Forgetting the memorable day
  • Self-destruction
  • Not caring about friends and family
• Family


  An essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person
• Family


  • Support
  • Mutual trust
  • Regular interaction
  • Shared beliefs and values
  • Security
  • Sense of community
• Friends


  Can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual experience shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding
• PARKER AND ASHER( 1993) TYPES OF FRIENDSHIP


  • Acquaintances
  • Companions
  • Intimates or best friends
• ARTHUR (1999 ) TYPES OF PEER GROUPS


  • Clique
  • Crowd
• In a study conducted by Furman (1999), it was found out that among girls, having friends as a source of social support is more common, compared with boys. Girls are more expressive than boys and usually show their intimacy by talking about personal matters; boys, on the other hand, show intimacy in non-verbal ways
• Becoming very close with your friends and failing to identify your limitations may affect other areas in your life

  
  

  ▪Interpersonal relationships or pakikisama
• Romantic Relationships


  ❖including marriage close relationships formed between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love

  
  

  ❖We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time
• Attraction


  A feeling that draws you to become closer to another person
• Ways on How Attraction to Someone is Expressed


  • Inspiration
  • Distraction
• Acceptable Ways to Express Your Attraction


  • Offer the gift of listening
  • Say please and thank you
  • Tell your loved ones how much you love and appreciate them
  • Offer to help someone's need
  • Write a letter or send a card to someone you love and mail it
  • Practice the art of forgiveness
  • Write your love ones a poem of gratitude
• Unacceptable Ways to Express Your Attraction


  • Acting that you own him/her
  • Acting weird when you are with him
  • Stalk him/her on social media
  • Obsession
• Love


  is mysterious: A powerful feeling that allows you to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of others
• 3 Phases of Romantic Relationships (Steinberg)


  • Discovery of interest
  • Dating
  • Commitment
• Expressions of Love & Commitment

  • Love is a choice
  • Love involves trust & commitment
• Having these kinds of personal relationships during adolescence is normal. However, how feelings are expressed must be clarified to strike a balance between studies and personal relationships. Thus, understanding and managing emotions are essential during this stage.
• Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship


  • Clarify your boundaries
  • Learn to communicate
  • Invest in an "emotional bank account"
  • Learn to forgive others
  • Consult professionals
• THERE ARE THREE KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP: FAMILY, FRIENDS, & ROMANTIC
• ~ Bureau of Census – defines family as “two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household.
• CLIQUE Is an exclusive group of people who spend time together and do not readily allow others to join them. A narrow circle of friends.
• CROWD Is a gathering individuals that it’s impossible to know everyone personality. Formed to pursue a shared interest or purpose, and can feel and function like a community with similar likes, beliefs or convictions.
• As you become more capable of forming intimate relationships during adolescence, the emergence of romantic relationships may occur after you have experienced emotional closeness with members of the opposite sex. You may initially describe a feeling of attraction.
• being aware of your feelings is not enough; managing your emotions is also essential.
• People engaged in romantic relationships experience a special type of feeling called LOVE. Romantic relationships are commonly observed among adolescents who are involved in girl and boy relationships.
• LOVE


  ➢“the person’s ability to extend himself/herself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth”. (Scott Peck, 1978)
• Having these kinds of personal relationships during adolescence is normal. However, how feelings are expressed must be clarified to strike a balance between studies and personal relationships. Thus, understanding and managing emotions are essential during this stage.
• During this stage when attraction toward the opposite sex is experienced. Sometimes, this attraction is called liking or crush. More so, romantic relationships are also experienced during teenage years. They experience not only attraction or liking but a feeling called love wherein one is willing to sacrifice for the other
• An impersonal relationship is formed with another person in order to satisfy a need or goal. For example, when we interact with a cashier at a grocery store, we are typically engaging in an impersonal relationship.
• ❑ Attraction – the action or power of evoking interest, or liking someone or something: and a quality or feature that evokes desire - it is a force that unites people and can grow into an the attachment which eventually leads to commitment
• ❑ Love – strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties - attraction based on sexual desire: - affection and tenderness felt by lovers - affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interest