commitment expresses itself in everyday maintenance behaviours. according to the model, enduring partners do not engage in retaliation but instead act to promote the relationship, this is accomodation. they will also put their partners interests first, which is willingness to sacrifice. they also forgive them for any serious transgressions, forgiveness. committed partners think about each other and potential aletnatives in specific ways. they are unrealistically positive above their partner [positve illusions], and negative about tempting alternatives.