PerDev

• Personal Relationships


  A close connection between people formed by emotional bonds and interactions
• Types of personal relationships

  • Friendships
  • Romantic relationships
  • Family relationships
  • Professional relationships
• Relationships


  A connection between people based on mutual understanding and emotional intimacy
• Types of relationships


  • Romantic
  • Friendly
  • Familial
  • Professional
• Relationships


  • Require communication, trust, and respect
• Teenage relationships


  1. Attraction

  2. Love

  3. Commitment
• Attraction


  The ability to generate interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something
• Components of attraction


  • Physical attraction
  • Similarity
  • Proximity
  • Reciprocity
• Physical attraction


  • Shapes first impressions
  • Facial structure, body build, and complexion play a role
  • Cultural and personal preference influence perception of beauty
• Similarity


  • Breeds attraction and connection because of shared interests
  • Influenced by social categorization based on age, religion, and the like
• Proximity


  • Also known as physical distance, and plays a vital role in relationships
  • The more you interact, the more likely it is to build strong connections
  • Classmates or neighbors are more likely to be friends
• Reciprocity


  • Reciprocated feelings strengthen relationships, lacking on it harms it
  • Involves mutual exchange of emotions and actions
• Forms of attraction


  • Crush
  • Identity crush
  • Romantic crush
• Social relationship


  A broad definition of how we interact and behave with other people, and how they interact and behave with us
• Behavior, attitude, emotions, opinions often influences the overall modification of an individual. Usually it is the people around us or the society we belong to that influences our personality
• Goleman's social intelligence theory

  Our brains are connected with other people. The Orbitofrontal Cortex (OFC) immediately calculates our feelings about a person and think about what action we take after
• Crush


  The love of an adolescent towards an older member of the same or opposite sex
• Three forms of social influence

  • Compliance
  • Identification
  • Internalization
• Identity crush


  • Formed when an adolescent finds someone they admire, want to imitate or wish to follow as their leader
  • Often last long because the admirer is using their crush in shaping their values, ideals, personality and development
• Compliance


  The person does what the other explicitly or implicitly ask him/her to do, though she/he remains to have an option whether or not to comply
• Romantic crush


  • Formed when an adolescent finds someone to be attractive and feels the desire to be around or spend time with them
  • Most romantic crushes are short-lived because there is a tendency for the 'magic' or charm of the crush to wear off
  • The common expression of this form of attraction includes seeing and talking with the focus of attention, writing love letters or notes, giving gifts, doing errands and other sacrifices for them
• Identification


  Being influenced by the group norm out of desire to be liked
• Courtship


  1. Dating

  2. Selective state

  3. Going 'steady'

  4. Engagement period
• Triangular Theory of Love


  • Intimacy - emotional closeness and connection
  • Passion - strong and intense emotion or enthusiasm
  • Commitment - dedication to a long-term relationship
• Internalization


  A person adopts the induced behavior because it is congruent with his value system
• Conformity


  An individual is influenced to adjust or change his/her behavior, attitudes, feelings, and/or belief in order to "fit in" or to "belong" to a group
• Types of love


  • Nonlove
  • Liking (Friendship)
  • Infatuated Love
  • Empty Love
  • Romantic Love
  • Companionate Love
  • Fatuous Love
  • Consummate Love
• Conversion


  Occurs when an individual whole - heartedly changes his or her original thinking, beliefs, actions and attitudes to align with other members of a group
• Minority influence


  Happens when a bigger number of people are influenced by much smaller number of people
• Nonlove


  Absence of intimacy, passion, and commitment. Essentially the absence of any kind of love.
• Reactance


  Is when there is a willing rejection of a social influence being exerted on an individual or group, also known as anti- non-conformity
• Obedience


  Involves abiding by the direct orders of someone who is regarded as an authority figure, although it may not necessarily reflect the person's beliefs
• Liking (Friendship)


  Intimacy alone, has a sense of closeness and emotional connection, but without passion or commitment.
• Persuasion


  Is used by one person or group to influence another to change their beliefs, actions, or attitudes by appealing to reason or emotion
• Group leadership


  The process of providing focus and direction to a specific group of people, includes facilitation and guidance of the people in the group
• Infatuated Love


  High on passion but lacks intimacy and commitment. Intense and often short-lived, driven primarily by physical attraction.
• Followership


  It is the function of the members in a group or organization and regarded as the counterpart of leadership. Responsible followership involves supporting the leader especially in the implementation of rules and regulations
• Empty Love


  Present when there's commitment alone, without intimacy or passion.
• Filipino values


  Ethical practices, ideologies and social norms which may be unique to Filipino culture, important to maintain harmony in Filipino relationships in social institutions such as family, school and community
• Romantic Love


  Combines intimacy and passion but lacks commitment. Characterized by intense emotions, physical attraction, and a strong bond, but without the long-term commitment.