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• Robert Sternberg

  An American psychologist and psychometrician known for Triarchic Theory of IntelligenceandTriangularTheory of Love.
• Intimacy


  The closeness, connectedness, and bond you feel in a relationship, which creates feelings of warmth
• Passion


  The physical, romantic, and sexual attraction of a relationship
• Commitment


  The decision to love someone for the long-term. Staying together for the sake of the children
• Infatuation


  Occurs when there is only passion in your relationship, a steamy but incomplete form of love with attraction that is entirely physical
• Liking


  When you feel close to someone but passion and a sense of commitment are absent
• Empty Love


  Happens when a couple is still committed to the relationship, but it lacks passion and intimacy
• Romantic Love


  A combination of intimacy and passion in which both partners are bonded and attracted to each, but commitment is missing
• Fatuous Love


  Refers to having passion and commitment without intimacy; these relationships don't tend to last because it's hard to develop trust without intimacy
• Companionate Love


  Means a couple has intimacy and commitment, but lack passion, which is characterized by a strong friendship between couple, but without the fire
• Consummate Love


  Also known as complete love, because all three components of the triangle are present and this is the type of relationship we should aim for
• Things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship


  • CHEATING
  • PUTTING YOU DOWN
  • NOT SUPPORTING YOUR DREAMS
  • CONTROLLING YOU
  • LACK OF COMMUNICATION
  • UNNECESSARY SACRIFICES
  • UNRELIABILITY
  • FORGETTING A MEMORABLE DAY
  • SELF DESTRUCTION
  • NOT CARING ABOUT FRIENDS AND FAMILY
• What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Love/ Attractions


  • MUTUAL RESPECT
  • TRUST
  • HONESTY
  • SUPPORT
  • FAIRNESS/EQUALITY
  • SEPARATE IDENTITIES
  • GOOD COMMUNICATION
• Basic Rights in a Relationship


  • The right to emotional support
  • The right to be heard by the other and to respond
  • The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner's
  • The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
  • The right to live free from accusation and blame
  • The right to live free from criticism and judgment
  • The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
  • The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
  • The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
• Social Influence Theory


  The central theme is that an individual's attitudes, beliefs, and subsequent actions or behaviors are influenced by referent others through three processes: compliance, identification, and internalization
• Varieties and Types of Social Influence

  • COMPLIANCE
  • IDENTIFICATION
  • INTERNALIZATION
  • CONFORMITY
  • CONVERSION
  • REACTANCE
  • OBEDIENCE
• Social Influencers Among Adolescents

  • FAMILY
  • SCHOOL
  • PEERS
  • MEDIA
• Leadership


  • The ability of a person in position of authority to influence others to behave in such a manner that goals are achieved
• Theories of Leadership

  • TRAIT THEORY
  • BEHAVIORAL THEORY
  • PARTICIPATIVE THEORY
  • SITUATIONAL THEORY
  • TRANSACTIONAL THEORY
  • TRANSFORMATIONAL THEORY
  • SERVANT LEADERSHIP
• Characteristics of Servant Leadership

  • LISTENING
  • EMPATHY
  • HEALING
  • SELF-AWARENESS
  • PERSUASION
  • CONCEPTUALIZATION
  • FORESIGHT
  • STEWARDSHIP
  • COMMITMENT TO THE GROWTH OF PEOPLE
  • BUILDING COMMUNITY
• What it Takes to be an Authentic Leader


  • Leadership is situational
  • Leadership is non-hierarchical
  • Leadership is relational
• Characteristics of Authentic Leaders

  • They walk their talk
  • They adjust to situations and display adaptability and flexibility but consistent with their values and real selves even when they take on different roles during different situations
  • They have a high level of comfort being themselves, even if they come from backgrounds that are different from the people or situations they deal with
• Family


  A fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their children
• In a blended family, two families were combined. Example: Mother, children, stepfather, and his kids; Father, children, stepmother, and her kids
• FOSTER FAMILY


  • Parents, children, foster child
• ADOPTIVE FAMILY


  • Parents (mother and father), adopted child
• BI-RACIAL/MULTI-RACIAL FAMILY


  • Filipina mother, American father, children
• TRANS-RACIAL ADOPTIVE FAMILY


  • American parents, adopted Filipino children
• CONDITIONALLY SEPARATED FAMILY


  • Family members are together except for the father working abroad
  • Family are living together, except the eldest child who is serving on the military
• CHILDLESS FAMILY


  • Mother and father only
• GAY or LESBIAN FAMILY


  • A lesbian mother and her children with a gay father
• MIGRANT FAMILY


  A family who settles together in a different place; it could be from one place to another due to some circumstances such as the father's job
• IMMIGRANT FAMILY


  A family wherein one or both parents are already an immigrant of other country. Their children may be or may not be an immigrant
• EMOTIONAL LEGACY


  In order to prosper, children need an enduring sense of security and stability nurtured in an environment of safety and love
• A strong emotional legacy


  • Provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow
  • Fosters confidence through stability
  • Conveys a tone of trusting support
  • Nurtures a strong sense of positive identity
  • Creates a "resting place" for the soul
  • Demonstrates unconditional love
• SOCIAL LEGACY


  Children need to gain the insights and social skills necessary to cultivate healthy and stable relationships
• Key building blocks of children's social legacy

  • Respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people
  • Rules that are given within a loving relationship
  • Responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves, that is cultivated by assigning children duties within the family
  • Unconditional love and acceptance by their parents, combined with conditional acceptance when the parents discipline for bad behavior or actions
  • The setting of social boundaries concerning how to relate to god, authority, peers, the environment and siblings
• SPIRITUAL LEGACY


  As spiritual beings, we adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters from one person or another. Parents need to take the initiative and present faith to their children
• Activities that assures spiritual legacy

  • Acknowledgement and reinforcements of spiritual realities
  • View God as a personal, caring being who is to be loved and respected
  • Make spiritual activities a routine part of life
  • Clarify timeless truth — what's right and wrong
  • Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday living
• Ways on How to Make Family Members Firmer and Gentler with Each Other

  • FOSTER UNITY
  • INVOLVE EACH OTHER
  • RESPECT INDIVIDUALITY
  • MODEL BEHAVIOR
  • EXPLAIN EXPECTATIONS and CONSEQUENCES
  • REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR
  • GIVE LOVE and FORGIVENESS
  • EXPRESS GRATITUDE
  • NURTURE TRUST
  • TAKE TIME TOGETHER
  • LISTEN ATTENTIVELY
  • ENSURE SAFETY
  • REMEMBER GOD
  • PRAY ALWAYS
  • LEARN GOOD COMMUNICATION
  • ACCEPT FAILURES
  • NOURISH EACH OTHER
  • SERVE ONE ANOTHER