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• WHAT IS AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP?

  • The special relationship we associate with romantic love
  • is a relationship between two people that often involves a deep knowledge about each other." It is caring, interdependent, mutual, trusting, and committed (Brehm, Miller, Perlman, & Campbell,2002)
• COMMON TYPES OF DATING 

  1. Face to Face Conventional/Traditional Dating 

  2. Online Dating 

  • Use of websites and mobile applications for finding romantic partners for short and long–term relationships (Toma, 2022). 
  • The 2021 YAFS 5 survey shows that 13.7%of filipino youth engaged in online dating at least once in the past 3 months.. 
  • Deception in online dating occurs frequently. 80% lied either about height, weight, or age (Toma, 2022). 

  The online dating effect: Where a couple meets predicts the quality of their marriage’
• M.U., or Mutual Understanding 

  • The process of being friends first and then developing feelings for each other from being constantly together. 
  • Not spontaneous but a gradual process of developing emotional intimacy through time. 
  • Involves pakiramdaman, or the process of sensing and feeling each other out.
• Same-Sex Romance 

  • Some adolescents enter same-sex relationships either as a 

  phase in their development or as an affirmation of their sexual orientation.

  • However, most gay, lesbian, and bisexual adolescents are denied the experience of dating and intimacy (Savin-Williams, 1996). 
  • The initial experience of having crushes on the same sex can create fear, guilt, and shame experience of having crushes among lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents 
• 1 PROXIMITY

  • People tend to fall in love with whom they have regular contact. They are the ones who are readily available.
  • Mere exposure to any kind of stimulus leads to liking.But overexposure to the same thing including our best friend or lover could also lead to boredom (Bornstein,1989).
• 2. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS AND RECIPROCITY

  • Initial attraction often stems from physical appearance.Individuals lacking it can compensate through other appealing qualities
  • Matching Hypothesis- people consider their own personal characteristics when they seek romantic partners
  • Reciprocal liking: People are likely to develop strong feelings for someone who share these feelings, because it pays off.
  • Shanteau and Nagy (1979) developed a formula for desirability:Desirability = Physical Attractiveness X Probability of Acceptance
• 3. SIMILARITY OR COMPATIBILITY

  • People tend to have stronger feelings for people who share the same attitudes, values, and interests
  • Familiarity and physical attractiveness influences initial attraction and first encounters. It is similarity however that shapes development of intimate relationships in long term (Brehm et al., 2002).
• LOVE

  • Has no fixed definition
  • Subjective and diverse
  • Different interpretations and understanding
• Evolutionary Theory

  Humans love to achieve reproductive success, that is, survival and continuation of the species
• Learning Theory

  • Love is learned or a product of conditioning
• Biological Theory

  • There are biochemical associations and changes that happen in the human body (e.g., hormones, neurotransmitters, etc.)
• Ontological Theory

  • Love occurs as a desire to be with the "other half"
• ROBERT STERNBERG'S TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE

  (Liking)

  Intimacy

  (Empty Love)

  Commitment

  (Infatuation)

  Passion
• Crush on Someone Unavailable

  • No chance of forming a relationship. Love object is unavailable and unreachable
• Crush on Someone Nearby

  • Physically nearby. May have interactions but no disclosure of romantic interests or develops into friendship
• Pursuing a Love Object

  • Initiate romantic relationships through passive routes or active communication
• Longing for a Past Lover

  • Dissolution of a relationship is often not mutual
• Unequal Love Relationship

  • Differences in the intensity, expectations, quantity or quality of love
• Eros Erotic Love

  • Value physical appearance and believe at love at first sight. Seek intensely passionate relationships.
• 2. Storge/Friendship Love

  • Seek genuine friendships that can lead to long lasting relationships
• 3. Ludus/Game-Playing,

  • Uncommitted love

  Players who see love as a game, having multiple partners at once
• 4. Mania/Manic Love

  • Demanding and possessive towards their beloved
• 5. Agape/Selfless Love

  • Giving and altruistic
• 6. Pragma/Pragmatic Lovers

  • Practical and use reason to find their perfect match
• SELF-DISCLOSURE

  • Revealing personal information about ones self to another is a defining characteristic of intimacy (Brehm et al.,)

  Social Penetration Theory

  1. Relationships begin with superficial information, small talk, and gradually move to more meaningful revelations.

  2. Intimacy Model Theory

  Intimacy develops when self disclosure leads to the feeling of

  being understood and cared for.
• EQUITY

  • EQUITY THEORY- People will be satisfied in their relationship if what each person gets is proportional to what each person gives (Brehm et al., 2002).
  • Women are happy when there is equality in the relationship but men are not affected because they are in a position of dominance or power.
• Gender Inequality

  Traditional gender roles:

  • men as breadwinners and dominant;
  • women as caregivers and submissive Infidelity, and intimate violence
  • Men control women in love and sex (rape)
  • Women are viewed as objects
  • Women should be pure and untouched by other men