Written as part of a series of sonnets for her future husband, Robert Browning
Neutral tones context
Thomas Hardy was Famous for the pessimistic tone in his writing and faced many disappointments in his personal relationships
Before You Were Mine
Themes: Family relationship- independence, strong bond, admiration, rebellion, desire and longing, getting older, memory
Compare with: Mother, any distance, Eden Rock
"shriek at the pavement./ Your polka-dot dress blows round your legs. Marilyn"
Caesura draws attention to "Marilyn" - glamorous and desirable film star, but also a tragic figure that committed suicide aged 36, hints at unhappiness yet to come.
"The decade ahead of my loud, possessive yell was the best one, eh?"
Rhetorical question. The narrator was a demanding baby, her mum sacrifice her life as a film star for her. Conversational tone, and colloquial language that suggests to familiarity.
"That glamorous love lasts / where you sparkle and waltz and laugh before you were mine."
Lexical field of glitz and glam. The repetition of the word "and" put emphasis on how many energetic qualities the narrator thinks her mother had.
"Clear as scent" - simile, use of sensory language, sysnthesia
Narrator imagines her mothers former self alongside the present reality, highlighting the bittersweet nature of growing older, motherhood, and enduring familial connections
Ponds are disconnected from rivers and seas, so water is still and isolated. The relationship will not move forward and narrator feels isolated in his relationships
Cyclical narrative - "I stumbled in his hob-nailed wake" "it is my father who keeps stumbling behind me" _ demonstrates strong paternal bond between them and support each other
Roles of parent and child have reversed as time goes on, emphasising the bittersweet nature of aging and parental relationships, even if they annoy each other
Neat, stable structure could show admiration for father's perfection or reflect claustrophobic environment growing up. Shows he still loves his dad after arhuments
Consonance in "pluck", "worked", "clicking" replicate fathers harsh workload - reflects both admiration of father and feeling that his dad is working him hard
The rhythmic pattern of the poem is not consistent. This maybe echoes the uncomfortable feeling which existed between the two people
The overall structure of the poem is circular rather than linear as it starts and ends in the same geographical place. One interpretation of this is that the speaker has not come to terms with what has happened and revisits the memory.
The father comes to the understanding that aging is a natural process. Every child has to experience the difficult process of gaining independence and every parent has to let go.