LESSON 3

• Intersubjectivity


  A concept where social interactions among individuals through comparison, agreement, and confirmation of each other's perception make it easier to determine real events occurring in society
• Communalization


  A social process wherein the community of other people are seen as embedded within the self
• Subjective


  Relies on personal feelings and opinions
• Objective


  Statement is based on facts and observation
• Love


  One dominant misconception is that love is a pleasant sensation one "falls into"
• Three reasons of love according to Fromm

  • Being loved rather than on loving
  • The object loved rather than on faculty of loving
  • Confusion between Initial State of falling in love & Permanent Standing in love
• The human experience of separation

  • Fundamental due to self-awareness
  • Arises when individuals move from a certain and secure environment to an uncertain one, realizing their distinctiveness from others
  • Brings feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety
• Overcoming loneliness


  1. Using substances and rituals

  2. Joining groups

  3. Being creative and productive
• The "Loving Encounter"


  • A connection that allows for unity with another while maintaining one's individuality
  • Akin to Buber's "I-Thou" communication, involving a deep, intimate understanding
  • The other person's appeal, expressed through words, gestures, or glances, invites us to move beyond ourselves, breaking free from self-absorption
• The appeal isn't about physical or spiritual attractiveness; it's about the person making the request
• True love


  • May involve not granting a request if it would cause harm
  • Saying "I love you" implies active care for the other person's body, world, and overall well-being, emphasizing their importance
• Reciprocity of love


  • As a response to the other's offering of subjectivity, I also give to the other my own subjectivity
  • Giving to the other my self requires his acceptance
  • Love is not about the other, it is also the authentic concern for the self
• Gift of self


  • Giving is disinterested and unconditional
  • I do not give in order to get something in return
  • The self in love is also a gift, valuable in itself
• Love is historical


  • The other who is the point at issue in love is a concrete particular person, not an abstract one
  • Everything in love is concrete
  • Love necessitates action and care
• Equality in love


  • The equality of being not of having
  • In love, two freedoms become one and each other become more free
• Characteristics of love


  • Love is not given only for a limited period of time
  • The persons in love is indivisible
  • The persons involved in love are unique, irreplaceable and as such are valuable in themselves
  • Love is sacred, sealed with trust, intimacy and shared secrets
  • In love, the human person becomes more valuable
• Persons are valuable in themselves
• Intersubjectivity


  A concept where social interactions among individuals through comparison, agreement, and confirmation of each other's perception make it easier to determine real events occurring in society
• Communalization


  A social process wherein the community of other people are seen as embedded within the self
• Subjective


  Relies on personal feelings and opinions
• Objective


  Statement is based on facts and observation
• Misconceptions about love


  • Love is a pleasant sensation one "falls into"
  • Being loved rather than on loving
  • The object loved rather than on faculty of loving
  • Confusion between Initial State of falling in love & Permanent Standing in love
• Loneliness


  The human experience of separation due to self-awareness, leading to feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety
• Overcoming loneliness


  1. Using substances and rituals

  2. Joining groups

  3. Being creative and productive
• Loving Encounter


  A connection that allows for unity with another while maintaining one's individuality, involving a deep, intimate understanding
• Characteristics of Loving Encounter

  • The appeal isn't about physical or spiritual attractiveness, but about the person making the request
  • By responding to the other's appeal, we define ourselves
  • True love may involve not granting a request if it would cause harm
  • Saying "I love you" implies active care for the other person's body, world, and overall well-being, emphasizing their importance
• Reciprocity of Love


  As a response to the other's offering of subjectivity, I also give to the other my own subjectivity. Giving to the other my self requires his acceptance. Love is not about the other, it is also the authentic concern for the self.
• Gift of Self


  Giving is disinterested and unconditional. I do not give in order to get something in return. The self in love is also a gift, valuable in itself, since if I do not value it then what I give to the other is a trash.
• Love is Historical


  Love is concrete, we always associate the person we love with concrete places, things, and events. Love is something that necessitates action and care.
• Equality in Love


  • The equality in love is the equality of being not of having. In love, two freedoms become one and each other become more free.
• Characteristics of Love


  • Eternal
  • Sacred
  • The persons involved in love are unique, irreplaceable and as such are valuable in themselves
• In love, the human person becomes more valuable
• Seatwork #4: Heartfelt Expressions a Love Letter