PART 2

• Human emotion is innate in all of us; it’s something we are born with and something we die with.
• Happiness, sadness, love, hatred, worries, and indifference are things that constantly occur in our daily lives.
• Human emotion is categorized into two variety of emotion, the positive emotion and negative emotion which is also known as secondary emotions.
• Positive emotions are emotions that we typically find pleasurable to experience.
• The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology defines positive emotions as “pleasant or desirable situational responses… distinct from pleasurable sensation and undifferentiated positive affect” (Cohn & Fredrickson, 2009).
• Positive emotions are love, astonishment, appreciation, enthusiasm, vitality, confidence, gratitude, patience, trust, and optimism.
• Negative emotions are those that we typically do not find pleasurable to experience.
• Negative emotions can be defined as “an unpleasant or unhappy emotion which is evoked in individuals to express a negative effect towards an event or person” (Pam, 2013).
• Negative emotions sap your energy and undermine your effectiveness.
• In the negative emotional state, you find lack of desire to do anything.
• Negative emotions are guilt, depression, pride, jealousy, self-pity, anxiety, resentment, envy, frustration, shame, denial, offended, regret, worry and grief.
• Our positive and negative emotions list will start with negative emotions.
• It’s important to understand where your negative emotions come from and to find ways of dealing with them before they get out of hand.
• Discomfort in the form of impatience, boredom, mild embarrassment, unease, or distress lets you know that something is not quite right; your perception of a situation may be skewed, or your actions may not be creating the results you want.
• Fear encompasses apprehension, concern, anxiety, worry, fright, and terror.
• The purpose of fear is to urge you to prepare to deal with a situation or prepare to change a situation.
• When you feel hurt, it generally means that you feel a sense of loss, and that loss typically comes from an unmet expectation.
• You can feel anger through irritation, resentment, fury, or rage.
• Feelings of anger let you know that you or someone else has violated a rule or standard that is important to you.
• They are the conditions you decide must happen in order for you to feel that something has been satisfied or fulfilled.
• There are three ways people react to guilt: they try to ignore and suppress it which only causes the guilt to intensify, they submit to it, continue to feel inferior, and potentially develop learned helplessness, or they use it to create strong leverage to change the behavior that caused them to violate their standard.
• Disappointment feels like sadness, defeat, being let down, or feeling like you’ve missed out on something.
• Excitement and passion increase your energy and enthusiasm toward life.
• Love and warmth are among the strongest antidotes to negative emotions.
• Passion inspires you to progress toward your goals more quickly because it turns challenges into opportunities.
• Determination requires courage to carry on in spite of challenges, and courage banishes frustration and disappointment.
• Appreciation and gratitude show your love for the gifts you’ve been given in life, and cultivating these emotions raises your quality of life.
• Loneliness can cause you to feel alone or somehow separate from others.
• Anger is a positive signal because it means that you’re within reach of something you want, but the methods you’re using to get there aren’t working.
• Most people want to avoid guilt more than almost any other emotion which means that it’s a powerful motivator (pain avoidance).
• Determination is the difference between succumbing to challenges and overcoming them.
• While you address and learn from your negative emotions, be sure to also nurture your positive ones.
• Guilt arises when you break one of the highest standards you set for yourself, and it’s meant to deter you from ever violating that standard again.
• Disappointment is similar to frustration because it’s a sign that you’re falling short of your goal; whereas, frustration signals that your goal is achievable if you change your approach, disappointment signals that your goal is impossible to achieve.
• Inadequacy is the feeling of being unworthy because you can’t do something that you believe you should be able to do.
• Overload or Overwhelm is a sign that you’re trying to deal with too much at once, and that it’s infeasible.
• The more you nurture your positive emotions, the better protection they provide against negative emotions.
• Positive Emotions must be addressed before they get out of hand and encroach on your flowers (negatives).
• Curiosity infuses your life with wonder and makes you want to do things that may have previously seemed unappealing which can lead to empowering experiences.
• Even if there is nothing you can do about the source of your anger, you can always find ways to manage it with your feelings.