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• Goleman refers to emotion as a feeling and the corresponding thoughts, psychological and biological states with the tendency to act on it.
• The root of the word emotion is motere, a Latin verb which means “to move” plus the prefix e signifying “move away” pointing that a tendency to act is implied with emotion (Goleman,1995)
• Emotional Intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ) refers “to the emotional awareness and emotional management skills which provide the ability to balance emotion and reason so as to maximize our long-term happiness
• Intensity of emotion - The theory on emotional intensity (Brehm, 1999) states that our emotion faculty lies in the central nervous system.
• Pykari’s (2011) thesis mentions four stages of emotion differentiation such as recognition, assessment, meta-cognition and regulation
• Recognition. Focus on the current emotion. Just be aware or be conscious of such emotion
• Assessment. Connect the detected emotion to the current task. Also check out the distracting factors such as emotions rooted in one’s imagination. Initially identify what triggers such emotions.
• Meta-evaluation. This will involve assessing one’s evaluation skills. That is you try to look into your essential assessment of the emotion that you have previously identified
• Regulation. The challenge in this part is what you are going to do with the emotion when it is recognized
• Self-awareness. This refers to the first and basic skill that the moment that emotion is felt, you are able to identify it properly
• Anger–fury, outrage, resentment, wrath, exasperation, indignation, vexation, acrimony, animosity, annoyance, irritability, hostility, and perhaps at the extreme, pathological hatred and violence
• Sadness- grief, sorrow, cheerlessness, gloom, melancholy, self-pity, loneliness, dejection, despair, and when pathological, severe depression
• Fear- anxiety, apprehension, nervousness, concern, consternation, misgiving, wariness, qualm, edginess, dread, fright, terror; as psychopathology, phobia and panic
• Enjoyment- happiness, relief, joy, contentment, bliss, delight, amusement, pride, sensual, pleasure, thrill, rapture, gratification, satisfaction, euphoria, whimsy, ecstacy, and at the far edge, mania
• Love- acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, affinity, devotion, adoration, infatuation, agape.
• Surprise- shock, astonishment, amazement, wonder
• Disgust- contempt, disdain, scorn, abhorrence, aversion, distaste, revulsion
• Shame- guilt, embarrassment, remorse, humiliation, regret, mortification, contrition
• Managing Emotion. This refers to the regulating emotion and making it fit a particular circumstance. This would challenge you to response appropriately, so that you do not blurt out your anger anytime you want
• Motivating the self. An emotionally intelligent person is able to “propel himself/herself to move on with life despite his/her circumstances”. So you, as an adolescent, can choose not to become a victim of the situation.
• Social Skills. This refers to the ability to manage emotion in others. As you are able to manage your own emotions, you will gain the capacity to listen to a peer who may be going through a highly emotional experience such as intense anger
• Verbal feedback uses words, while nonverbal feedback uses facial expressions and body language, which send a much stronger message than words
• Written feedback however, can be expressed through letters or report cards in school reflecting your academic performance level or assessment
• Empathy -This refers to your ability to sense the feelings or emotions of others without them saying anything to you.
• Social Skills -This refers to the ability to manage emotion in others. As you are able to manage your own emotions, you will gain the capacity to listen to a peer who may be going through a highly emotional experience such as intense anger.
• Personal Relationships involve the act of relating and allowing your person to connect with others.
• Daniel Goleman’s (1995) concept of emotional intelligence guides you first and foremost, in identifying positive and negative emotions by naming emotions when they happen and in owning them without blaming others how you feel. He also stated that 80 to 90 percent of our emotions are not expressed and if expressed, they are not properly stated.
• Attraction refers to the “act, process, or power of attracting and evoking interest, pleasure, liking for someone” (Merriam-Webster).
• 1. Crush. An adolescent may be attracted to another person, and such attraction may be labeled as a crush. Emulating the observed admirable qualities of the person can be considered an identity crush. Another form of crush can be romantic or intense infatuation for someone.
• 1. Courtship. This includes stages in the romantic relationship whereby one gets to know more about other person in an exclusive manner through dating. Some go dating to simply be with each other.
• Going Steady is a stage where two individuals officially decide to deepen their relationship by leveling up their commitment through higher exclusivity. An adolescent should, thus, be informed that engaging in an exclusive relationship is a preparation for marriage.
• Psychologist Zick Rubin identifies three components of love
• • Attachment refers to the desire for the presence of the other person, which includes emotional support.
• • Caring refers to the concern for the other person’s well-being.
• • Intimacy refers to the desire for privacy, closeness and communication.
• THREE AREAS OF SOCIAL INFLUENCE

  1. Conformity
  2. Compliance
  3. Obedience
• 1. Conformity – is when adolescents change their behavior to be like others. One example of this is when they seek approval from others to feel that they belong.
• • Compliance is when, for example, senior high school students do what they are asked to do such as  joining students organizations in school or outreach program in the community.
• • Obedience is when adolescents  submit themselves to authorities  in the home, school and community.
• A leader is expected to lead others. One can stand out as a leader in a group. According to Maxwell in his book, 21 Irrefutable laws of Leadership, “ The true measure of leadership is influence nothing more, nothing less”.