EMOTIONAL SELF

• An important aspect of understanding the self is acknowledging the presence of emotions.
• An important aspect of understanding the self is acknowledging the presence of emotions.
• Emotions serve as a driving force in how one acts and behaves. It plays a part in making decisions, embracing certain lifestyles, and relating to others. However, emotions should not rule over one’s rationality and become the sole basis of decisions.
• emotions should not rule over one’s rationality and become the sole basis of decisions.
• Considered as the LOWER LEVEL RESPONSES occurring in the brain, which create biochemical reactions in the body, and consequently cause changes one’s physical state.

  Emotions
• Emotions are considered as the lower level responses occurring in the brain, which create biochemical reactions in the body, and consequently cause changes one’s physical state.
• There is a distinction between emotions and feelings despite both being interchangeably used and discussed in various contexts.
• Emotion is a biological experience and response, while feelings have been defined as the mental portrayal of what is going on in your body when you have an emotion. In short, emotions are physiological and feelings are subjective experiences.
• It is a biological experience and response; physiological.

  Emotion
• Defined as the mental portrayal of what is going on in your body when you have an emotion; subjective experiences.

  Feelings
• Emotion is a biological experience and response, while feelings have been defined as the mental portrayal of what is going on in your body when you have an emotion. In short, emotions are physiological and feelings are subjective experiences.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) is one’s ability to understand emotion and for them to contribute in how one perceives his/her environment. It includes our capacity to regulate our emotions and be aware which one is helpful for emotional and intellectual growth. It is a requirement for one’s overall well-being and, hence can translate to effective functioning in all aspects of one’s life.
• is one’s ability to understand emotion and for them to contribute in how one perceives his/her environment. It includes our capacity to regulate our emotions and be aware which one is helpful for emotional and intellectual growth. It is a requirement for one’s overall well-being and, hence can translate to effective functioning in all aspects of one’s life.

  Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
• intelligence (EQ) includes our capacity to regulate our emotions and be aware which one is helpful for emotional and intellectual growth.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a requirement for one’s overall well-being and, hence can translate to effective functioning in all aspects of one’s life.
• Research has shown that high EQ have positive impact in various settings such as our thinking abilities, social competence and even in the workplace as well as our daily life.
• 3 models of Emotional Intelligence:

  ×Mayer, Salovey & Caruso

  ×Goleman

  ×Bar-on
• Mayer, Salovey & Caruso:

  1. emotional perception and expression
  2. Emotional facilitation (sound judgment)
  3. Emotional understanding and analysis
  4. Reflective emotional regulation
• Goleman

  1. Self-awareness
  2. Self-management
  3. Social awareness
  4. Relationship management
• Bar-on

  1. Self-perception
  2. Self-expression
  3. Interpersonal
  4. Decision-making
  5. Stress management
• Adolescence is considered a turbulent time of development due to all the changes that they go through. This is why emotional growth is a crucial point.
• In order to establish emotional efficacy and maturity, emotional regulation must be learned.
• Emotional regulation is an attempt to influence emotion and can be applied in interacting with the self and others. It may take two forms: cognitive reappraisal and suppression.
• Emotional regulation is an attempt to influence emotion and can be applied in interacting with the self and others. It may take two forms: cognitive reappraisal and suppression.
• What are the 2 forms of emotional regulation?

  Cognitive reappraisal and Suppression.
• Cognitive reappraisal involves the evaluation of the situation prior to making personal, subjective valuations about it. Suppression involves denial and masking of facial expressions to hide one’s current emotional state.
• What form of emotional regulation that involves the EVALUATION OF THE SITUATION prior to making personal, subjective valuations about it.

  Cognitive reappraisal
• Which form involves DENIAL and MASKING OF FACIAL EXPRESSIONS to HIDE one's current emotional state?

  Suppression
• Individuals have the following characteristics when they have reached emotional maturity and efficacy.

  1. Self-control
  2. Trustworthiness
  3. Conscientiousness
  4. Adaptability
  5. Innovation
  6. Empathy
• How do we develop emotional regulation?

  It can be learned primarily through observational and social referencing particularly through the family. School can also play a crucial role in a person’s emotional regulation.
• TIPS:

  1. Smile to make yourself feel good.
  2. Smile to make others feel good.
  3. Get up and move
  4. Check in with your body
  5. Physically remove the tension
  6. Breathe
  7. Talk to someone
  8. Disengage and re-engage emotions
  9. Label your emotions
  10. Label your emotions for others.
• A study revealed that a brain activity was recorded when people look at photos of people they love. The parts of the brain that was activated were closely associated with anticipation of reward. The same system involved in pleasure and addiction which serves as the dopamine in the brain. But a study by Fisher et al., (2006) concluded that love can be considered as a strong motivation- an addictive craving to be with the person you love.
• Different studies about love <3 .

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Helen Fisher – Phases of Romantic Love

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ John Lee - Love styles

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Robert Sternberg – Triangular theory of Love
• Helen Fisher – Phases of Romantic Love

  
• LUST

  • Intense craving for sexual contact
  • Androgen, estrogen; pheromones
• ATTRACTION

  • Infatuation. Energy and attention is focused on one particular person
  • High dopamine & norepinephrine , Low serotonin
• ATTACHMENT

  • Long term bond between partners

  • Oxytocin; vasopressin
• John Lee – Love Styles (PSALME)

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Pragma

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Storge

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Agape

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Ludus

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Mania

  ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Eros
• Eros Based on strong sexual & emotional component; quick to fall in & out of love
• Agape is an altruistic & selfless love; doesn’t expect something in return