Personal Relationships

• Attachment - a deep and

  enduring emotional bond between two people in which each seeks closeness and feels more secure
• Secure attachment - primary caregiver is most of the time present and available and when all the emotional needs of an infant are met
• Avoidant attachment - is when the primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even unresponsive to a child's needs
• Anxious-ambivalent attachment - when the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and in meeting a child's emotional needs
• attraction- it is often understood as based on physical appearance.
• pheromones- an odorless chemical found in urine and sweat, and can only be detected through an organ as the nose, are also involved in the assessment of a future mate, this is an indication of a person's immune system
• Transference Effect- these people remind us of someone in the past who has affected our sense of self and our behavior
• Propinquity Effect- We often develop a sense of familiarity with people who live close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which leads us to liking them more.
• Similarity- we are often attracted to like-minded persons and those who have similar beliefs and values as ours, because the similarity is a validation of our innermost values and belief system, and who we are as a person
• Reciprocity- like people who like us back. stronger basis for liking another person than similarity.
• Physical Attractiveness- a major factor in liking someone, and usually, first impression counts a lot, too.
• Personality Characteristics and Traits- People get attracted to two characteristics that lead to liking the other person, these are: empathic persons, who exude warmth and sympathy and who are also optimistic and maintain positive views; and sociallycompetent per- sons, who are good communicators and enjoy good conversations
• components of love- intimacy, commitment, and passion
• intimacy- Researchers Reis, Clark, and Holmes (2004), and Reis and Shaver (1998) defined intimacy as"that lovely moment when someone understands and validates us." I
• Commitment- the willingness to sacrifice for the sake of the relationship. act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one's behavior and thinking.
• passion- he intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person
• KINDS OF LOVE Nonlove-pertains to casual, everyday interactions that do not include love at all.
• KINS OF LOVE liking- feelings of friendship, such as closeness, bonded- ness, and warmth. It involves only the intimacy component
• KINDS OF LOVE -Infatuated love- "Love at first sight" by experiencing passionate arousal without the intimacy and the decision/commitment components. These can arise quickly, and dissipate just as immediately
• KINDS OF LOVE Empty love- This kind of love arises when one is committed to loving some- but both the intimacy and passion components are absent
• KINDS OF LOVE Romantic love- combination of the intimacy and passion components
• KINDS OF LOVE Companionate love- Evolves from a combination of the intimacy and decision/commitment components. This is often seen in stable, long- term marriages and can last a lifetime
• KINDS OF LOVE Fatuous love- A combination of the passion and decision/commitment components, and often manifests in whirlwind romances. The relationship isn't stable because there is no intimacy (i.e., they have nothing in common)
• KINDS OF LOVE Consummate love- full combination of all three components, and the kind of love many of us aspire for in romantic relationships
• COMMITMENT- continuing process of showing love and care; fulfilling the promises or agreements made with each other; and through bad times and good times, the commitment stays firm and in place.