Women talk a lot, use half-finished sentences, link sentences with 'and', use too many adjectives like 'pretty' and 'nice', use too many adverbs and tend towards hyperbole, have a smaller vocabulary than men, are more fluent in speaking, gain spoken mastery of foreign languages more easily, use veiled and indirect expressions, have a debilitating effect on the language
Speak less frequently, show they are listening with minimal responses, speak more quietly and in a higher pitch range, use hyper-correct grammar and pronunciation, use a greater range of intonation, use question intonation in declarative statements, overuse qualifiers and hedges, use super-polite forms, apologise more, use tag questions, have a special lexicon, use empty adjectives and more intensifiers, use euphemisms and diminutives more, use direct quotation, use wh- imperatives and modal constructions, avoid slang and coarse language, lack a sense of humour
Conversation between the sexes sometimes fails not because of anything inherent in how women talk, but because of how men respond or don't respond. Women do 'conversational shitwork' to keep conversations going
Coates found that men will often reject topics introduced by women, while women accept topics introduced by men, and men discuss more 'male' topics like business, sport, politics, economics
men dominant in convo because dominant in society; social conditioning makes women polite & respectful towards men; their behaviour is less confident and assertive because they occupy a less powerful place in society; women framed negatively in language
convo between men and women sometimes fails because of how men respond/don't respond; men speak twice as long in mixed convo; challenges Lakoff: women use questions as a power tool in order to continue convo
language differs on situation specific authority or power NOT gender; women who use low freq. of women's lang traits have higher status; hesitancy is about power
women talk to affirm solidarity and maintain relationships; they focus on feelings, personal anecdotes & relationships; agree frequently; men find long pauses or thinking time acceptable; frequently disagree and challenge one another - verbal sparring
practical ways of improving gender equality - use of pronoun 'them' instead of 'he' or 'she' to replace gender bias; replacing marked terms such as job titles with neutral replacements
political correctness is not enough - the need to change society and what it thinks of minority groups; stop arguing about how 'chairman' is sexist and instead understand the issue is that women are underrepresented in parliament
220 terms to describe promiscuous female whereas only 20 to describe men (most of which feminise men); insults for men are less taboo and less sexually insulting